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Why I don't date/talk to conservatives

• I don't want to deal with people who can't step outside their own existence and experiences to understand what others go through, but feel that they are the authority on how other people live and try to survive.

• I don't want to talk to people who are willing to throw away the rights of others for their own needs and wants. If they are willing to thoughtlessly vote to remove rights of others, that says they aren't someone worth valuing because they won't value me.

• I don't want to be the most intelligent person in the relationship. I don't want to spend hour after frustrating hour trying to explain to someone who has no desire to grow on how their point of view is narrow, biased, racist, misogynistic, etc. If I want that, I can literally post a comment on some raging right wing nut job and feel fulfilled without having to deal with them on the daily.

• I don't want to be around someone who says things like, "We've always been a violent society", "We've always had a society based on me", "Violence and war are just a part of human nature", etc, as if none of these things can't be changed when they absolutely can be, except it is easier to believe these extremely horrible ideologies instead of actually doing the work on themselves to learn better ways to manage anger and cope with pain.

• I don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand gender is a concept and is not a rule of biology. If a person can't be bothered to read actual science journals that explain that, I'm not required to explain it and won't.

• I don't want to be exposed to hateful rhetoric and beliefs. The world is already shitty enough to have to spend time with someone who really doesn't care how their views directly hurt other people and usually feel proud that they do.

• I don't want to be around someone who has allowed misinformation and propaganda to infect their brain.

• I don't want to be around someone who is unable to be self-aware and willing to consider changing themselves when opposite information is presented.

• I don't want to be around someone who literally has no compassion, empathy or care for people who are not a part of their life.

Basically, it boils down to, if you can't think logically and critically to current events, if you aren't willing to see the world from various perspectives while being respectful and understanding of other people, their lives, their experiences and how systems have been set in place to keep them down that your votes have allowed to continue, I am not at all required to acknowledge your existence or your presence.

There's a valid reason you are being rejected. That reason is you.
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I am not much into politics anymore but I do have to say that it goes both ways on many of your points. I mean you literally state you don't want to deal with someone who isn't willing to see other perspectives but based upon your statement you are not willing to see others perspectives either (if they are conservative). Just food for thought. I know my opinion won't change anything.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@istillhaveanameitsrick That's a fair statement. Let me just say, from multiple experiences in discourse, both online and in person (i live in heavy trump country), I do actually understand their perspectives. The "changes" they are being asked to make are uncomfortable, not logical, beyond their scope of learning. They aren't open to learning other points of view because it requires a certain amount of personal accountability that makes them uncomfortable.

Most of them become aggressive, bullying, mocking, etc, when presented with ither points of view for a variety of reasons, most of them due to immature response mechanisms. They haven't learned how to be any other wayand when they have others who are willing to dogpile, they receive confirmation that their ideas, beliefs and feelings are okay and correct.

I am not the person who is here to show them better ways. I am not the person who is going to help them see things from other perspectives. I'm okay with that and to keep my own peace, I simply don't.