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Why I don't date/talk to conservatives

• I don't want to deal with people who can't step outside their own existence and experiences to understand what others go through, but feel that they are the authority on how other people live and try to survive.

• I don't want to talk to people who are willing to throw away the rights of others for their own needs and wants. If they are willing to thoughtlessly vote to remove rights of others, that says they aren't someone worth valuing because they won't value me.

• I don't want to be the most intelligent person in the relationship. I don't want to spend hour after frustrating hour trying to explain to someone who has no desire to grow on how their point of view is narrow, biased, racist, misogynistic, etc. If I want that, I can literally post a comment on some raging right wing nut job and feel fulfilled without having to deal with them on the daily.

• I don't want to be around someone who says things like, "We've always been a violent society", "We've always had a society based on me", "Violence and war are just a part of human nature", etc, as if none of these things can't be changed when they absolutely can be, except it is easier to believe these extremely horrible ideologies instead of actually doing the work on themselves to learn better ways to manage anger and cope with pain.

• I don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand gender is a concept and is not a rule of biology. If a person can't be bothered to read actual science journals that explain that, I'm not required to explain it and won't.

• I don't want to be exposed to hateful rhetoric and beliefs. The world is already shitty enough to have to spend time with someone who really doesn't care how their views directly hurt other people and usually feel proud that they do.

• I don't want to be around someone who has allowed misinformation and propaganda to infect their brain.

• I don't want to be around someone who is unable to be self-aware and willing to consider changing themselves when opposite information is presented.

• I don't want to be around someone who literally has no compassion, empathy or care for people who are not a part of their life.

Basically, it boils down to, if you can't think logically and critically to current events, if you aren't willing to see the world from various perspectives while being respectful and understanding of other people, their lives, their experiences and how systems have been set in place to keep them down that your votes have allowed to continue, I am not at all required to acknowledge your existence or your presence.

There's a valid reason you are being rejected. That reason is you.
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TinyViolins · 31-35, M
Yeah, I'm in a similar boat with regards to who I choose to have conversations with on here. To be fair, there are a few moderate conservatives who are genuine folk that care about people and the future of their country. I'm fine talking to honest people even if we can't agree on certain topics.

My problem is that the overwhelming majority of conservatives here are as you described. Aggressively vile people with a complete lack of critical thinking skills or empathy for those who aren't on their side. I'm aware that there are a number of liberals who exhibit a similar toxic fanaticism, but I usually mute them too so I don't see it as much.

I'm at the point where I just block the moment they start attacking because I already know they'll refuse to be reasonable. I've got better things to do than to try to argue with idiots
Pherick · 41-45, M
@TinyViolins Oh yea, there are people on both sides who just have no critical thinking skills and couldn't figure out how to do basic research if their life depended on it. I think the difference is volume, or atleast vocal volume?

Those on the right like this seem to make up like 80% of the conservatives out there. While the on the left its 15%. Maybe the left has more, maybe I don't hang out in the spaces they do, but apparently in terms of voting, there are more of the conservatives.
TinyViolins · 31-35, M
@Pherick In my experience, there is a stark difference between those who are genuinely ignorant and those who are willfully ignorant. It's pretty easy to spot because the latter chooses to get defensive when confronted with evidence that contradicts their biases. The former at least tries to reconcile this new information with their beliefs.

I'm all for having a sense of skepticism in a debate, but when these people cling to skepticism at all costs, it's obvious they're arguing in bad faith. Most of the conservatives I've talked to are motivated entirely by their cynicism and will try to drag anyone they can down to their level. Talking to them is fruitless

Liberals often go about things in a foolish manner as well, but I've found them to be far less repugnant when handling disagreements and a lot more willing to present evidence supporting their beliefs
Pherick · 41-45, M
@TinyViolins Oh agreed. and honestly in my personal life, thats the difference with people I want to spend time with. We don't have to agree on everything, but if you believe something and I disagree lets talk about it.

If that talks leads me to presenting facts, sources, etc and all you can do is put your finger in your ears and yell "NOOOO" or start calling me a "Poopyhead" ... then I think our friendship was done before it really got going :)