@GohantheThird I would NEVER take advantage of her in any way, especially financially. I'd like to think she too knows that.

I can definitely understand my friend and it does suck when things change. Especially when you have given your heart to something and invested your soul. But trust me my friend things do get better. I spent 18 years taking care of someone having their back and standing by their side through thick thin job loss sickness weight gain you name it. Even abstinence when they were no longer interested in an intimate relationship I dealt with that for over 9 years before finally enough became enough. Unfortunately I had an incident where I was incarcerated and while I was in there in return for my efforts in loyalty I basically had my car stolen out from under me that I had paid for and I had my entire house trashed to the tune of a $25,000 renovation being necessary and if that was not enough that person tried to add insult to injury by running up a balance under my name on the electric bill so I definitely know what it's like to have to start over and it hurts but just trust me if I can make it and move forward you can too. And someone out there someday we'll see the good person that you really strive to be and that will be more than enough for them

It sounds like to me she's frustrated because of your financial problems and now she's worried you're going to take advantage of her because of it. Obviously that is not something you would necessarily do, but it can be hard for a relationship when a loved one loses financial stability. My sister got divorced a few years ago and my entire family has been helping her out because she just sucks when it comes to money. She's getting married again to someone who is more financially stable than her, but she still struggles and we all still help her because she just can't get it together.

What you need to do is get a hold of your finances. We all go through financial problems, neurodivergent or not, and we all have to solve them. I don't know if you can save your relationship, but I do think you can save yourself.

Aside from your obvious pains, worry, doubts and fears, youre going to be okay.
I know you needed to hear that.
Just breathe.
Dont let her ghosting first go to your head. Be patient, be honest, breathe..let it hurt, let it go.
This raging storm inside you will be easier, just relax..it will be ok

I think you are overly emphasizing the NT/NA divide...EVERYone has stress.

How you handle it is your choice.
Some ppl execise, etc.

I dont know you, you don't know me, but since you're seeking feedback, here goes:

Prioritize your health, rebuild your strength, seek connections who will support you, embrace your independence, focus forward and up.

It's over. Do not look back. Thank your former girlfriend for everything she did and hold the good memories close to you. It's time to have new adventures, new challenges and new companions.

Remember: you have the right to live a productive and ecstatic life. No matter what you think you've done wrong, you are better than all your regrets combined. Keep your head down, tackle hard, and good luck.

Hey don’t be so hard on yourself your human
Be patient with yourself and her also if your sill Olin a relationship with her hang in there
Best wishes on all !!