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When it comes to dating a girl with dwarfism, I could use some advice

I want to make it clear that I’m only reposting this so I can move it into another Forum. (new to this site, so still trying to figure it out)

What is it like to date a girl with dwarfism, specifically pituitary dwarfism. I’ve known her for quite a while, and I’m curious as to if dwarfism would affect dating. She is around 3‘8“ tall, but she has a huge heart, honestly and truthfully, she is very sweet caring, and we are about to go on our second official date night together. When it comes to holding hands when we’re out and about, how exactly would one go about this comfortably? The same thing goes for hugging/kissing. When we go in for a hug or a kiss, what is the best way to go about this? Like I said, she is super sweet, but I’m not too familiar with the dwarfism and I would just like some pointers We’ve spent a lot of time together, usually at each other’s residences, and this time we were going to go to dinner for a date night.
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LadyGrace · Best Comment
Some individuals with dwarfism may face negative stereotypes or assumptions about their dating prospects, leading to feelings of self-doubt or social isolation.

The rarity of dwarfism can make it challenging to meet potential partners, especially within the community, and some may feel pressured to date others with dwarfism.

Height differences can create practical challenges in everyday dating activities, such as dancing or holding hands, requiring open communication and flexibility.

Sadly, some individuals with dwarfism may encounter instances of having their height used as a basis for judgment or unwanted attention. However, it seems your friend has no problem with this and that's great! The show she has great self-esteem and self-worth and not a lot of insecurities.

Navigating the dating world with dwarfism can empower individuals to embrace their identities and find confidence in their unique qualities.

Many people with dwarfism have successful and fulfilling romantic relationships, demonstrating that height is not a barrier to love. Dating with dwarfism can provide opportunities to educate others about the condition, and challenge societal misconceptions.

It sounds like you two are fine, just as you are. Doesn’t sound like there's any barriers between you two. I say go for it. Who cares who approves? As long as you are both happy and it sounds like you both are, that's all that matters.
@DattheFirsT The very fact that you are aware of that and don't want to be overwhelming, shows me that you will automatically be conscious of that and won't do it. Just try to relax and not overthink things because when we keep dwelling on things it makes us more anxious. Just cuddle "loosely" a little bit, so then you won't feel like you're overwhelming her. I don't think you'll have a problem with this. I think she would tell you if she felt like it was too much. When will you be going out with her again? I can't wait to hear how it goes. I know it will be lovely.
DattheFirsT · 31-35, M
@LadyGrace we try to go out every week, so far. She is a little bit shy, not just with me but with anyone. I haven’t asked her about it but I’m assuming it is because of her dwarfism, because of her height she has a low self-esteem. That’s why I’m so worried because I know people who are shy like that have a very hard time speaking up and will just let stuff happen. But I want her to know that I love her and if she is uncomfortable then she can tell me. Same thing when I ask her questions, I don’t want to make her uncomfortable. I want to show her that I’m considering her differences and I want her to know that she can tell me anything
@DattheFirsT That's really beautiful.

IM5688 · 61-69, M
I have no experience with this, so any thoughts I express here are off the cuff. Take it for what it's worth. That being said, I think a date night is a great idea and since you are familiar with being with her, everything, (referring to a inner date,) should go smoothly.

Wherever you decide to go to dinner, you might catch the host/hostess off guard and they may not know exactly what to do or how to treat you as a couple, but I'm sure they will do their best to accommodate you and her.
If you wanted to, you could give the restaurant a heads up. Let them know you are planning a dinner date, give them the facts, let them know you want everything to go smoothly and you are letting them know so they can prepare ahead of time. (Things like seating, etc.)

As for stepping it up, (hugging, kissing, etc.) IMO, that would be best done in a private, one on one setting, (at home, at the movies, etc.)

Hope I was of some help and good luck on your date. Hope it all turns out the way you want it.
DattheFirsT · 31-35, M
@IM5688 what would the restaurant need to prepare ahead of time for?
Also, for hugging and kissing, I see couples doing this out in public all the time. Yes obviously for those long and intimate hugs and kisses, yes in private. But for just like a quick kiss along with a hug. Why would that need to be done in private necessarily?
Beautywithin · 36-40, F
Come on now. If this is all new to you. Isnt the fun bit trying to find out about all of this? Someone else experiences may be totally different to the one you will have. Just go with the flow.
tiltawhirl · 36-40, F
I really don’t see why you couldn’t treat it like any other relationship. It really just comes down to both of your preferences and nothing else.
DattheFirsT · 31-35, M
@tiltawhirl I don’t mean treating her different, obviously. I’m trying to get the advice on how you would give someone like her a hug and a kiss. I know I can obviously ask her but I would like to go into this with some pointers or some advice, or no out knowledge
Once you get used to the adjustment in height, everything else will fall into place and it will feel so natural. You just treat her like you would any other date.
Thank you for best comment.
This looks like one of those posts that will never go away, so it looks like I will have to use the 'hide' and 'mute' options.
Donotfolowme · 51-55, F
Why is it important to mention their physical appearance when it doesn't even matter in a real love relationship?
It's like how should one go about dating a 7ft tall will there be special crane required or high heels to hug or asking Qs like I don't get it
black4white · 56-60, M
Why is your focus on her dwarfism just go and enjoy…it will play out one way or another
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Oh, it's you again back under a new account. I'm not surprised you keep getting banned.
DattheFirsT · 31-35, M
@SW-User me again?
Confined · 56-60, M

 
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