When it comes to dating a girl with dwarfism, I could use some advice

I want to make it clear that I’m only reposting this so I can move it into another Forum. (new to this site, so still trying to figure it out)

What is it like to date a girl with dwarfism, specifically pituitary dwarfism. I’ve known her for quite a while, and I’m curious as to if dwarfism would affect dating. She is around 3‘8“ tall, but she has a huge heart, honestly and truthfully, she is very sweet caring, and we are about to go on our second official date night together. When it comes to holding hands when we’re out and about, how exactly would one go about this comfortably? The same thing goes for hugging/kissing. When we go in for a hug or a kiss, what is the best way to go about this? Like I said, she is super sweet, but I’m not too familiar with the dwarfism and I would just like some pointers We’ve spent a lot of time together, usually at each other’s residences, and this time we were going to go to dinner for a date night.

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LadyGrace · Best Comment

Some individuals with dwarfism may face negative stereotypes or assumptions about their dating prospects, leading to feelings of self-doubt or social isolation.

The rarity of dwarfism can make it challenging to meet potential partners, especially within the community, and some may feel pressured to date others with dwarfism.

Height differences can create practical challenges in everyday dating activities, such as dancing or holding hands, requiring open communication and flexibility.

Sadly, some individuals with dwarfism may encounter instances of having their height used as a basis for judgment or unwanted attention. However, it seems your friend has no problem with this and that's great! The show she has great self-esteem and self-worth and not a lot of insecurities.

Navigating the dating world with dwarfism can empower individuals to embrace their identities and find confidence in their unique qualities.

Many people with dwarfism have successful and fulfilling romantic relationships, demonstrating that height is not a barrier to love. Dating with dwarfism can provide opportunities to educate others about the condition, and challenge societal misconceptions.

It sounds like you two are fine, just as you are. Doesn’t sound like there's any barriers between you two. I say go for it. Who cares who approves? As long as you are both happy and it sounds like you both are, that's all that matters.

DattheFirsT · 31-35, M

@LadyGrace thank you. This was an excellent answer. Of course I’m going to treat you just as I would anyone. We were planning to possibly go bowling, then for sure go out to dinner and then go to a movie after when I go in to give her a hug, or go in for a kiss, how would you personally do it? I just want to go in with some sort of knowledge if you know what I’m talking about. As in, I don’t make it really awkward. And yes obviously I’m going to ask her, I am just curious as to how other people would personally go about this given the size difference

LadyGrace ·

@DattheFirsT Honey I think it's like anything else to tell you the truth. I think you'll both be able to tell when the time is right. Like if you're setting with her on the couch or next to her at the bowling alley or wherever, you can kind of snuggle up to her with your arm around her for a while and get her used to that and you'll be able to tell when she likes it and then you can give her a hug when the time is right and just sweetly ask her would you mind if I give you a kiss and I know she won't mind. Haha. It's really as simple as that. Same as it would be with someone who's your height. It just sort of comes natural when you're sitting with your arm around her and you can talk and just be comfortable with nothing forced and then eventually just say you know you're so pretty would you mind if I give you a kiss? I'm sure she will love it. And don't forget, she's probably just as nervous as you are about it. Hahaha but I'm sure you will both do fine. That's going to be beautiful. Don't worry about it just go with your gut feeling at the time, it will come natural. You will see.

DattheFirsT · 31-35, M

@LadyGrace you are very correct in that I’m really nervous. I don’t mean to be asking all of these questions but for example, typically when you pick up your girlfriend you give her a hug when she opens the door. How do I go about giving her a hug when we meet out on the porch? and when I dropped her off I was planning to give her a goodbye kiss, but how do we go about kissing when we’re at the porch and I’m dropping her off, this would be a hug and a kiss both. Again I’m so sorry for all the questions but typical stuff like that would be a little more challenging with her dwarfism. And I really don’t want to screw up the moment by asking because I know it’s sort of a weird question. How would you personally do it?

LadyGrace ·

@DattheFirsT I love the questions. Great questions! Honey you do it just like as if she was the same height as you. It may feel different but it really is no different. You just been down and give her a hug and she'll be delighted! It's just a small adjustment. You treat her like you would any person that was the same height as you and it all does work out. Please don't be nervous. You'll see it will come natural and it will all work out so beautifully. I think this is so exciting and I can't wait to hear how everything goes. Don't worry. You can do this! It's going to be great! 🙏👍🙌 You got this! You really do!

DattheFirsT · 31-35, M

@LadyGrace thank you so much. I’m just really nervous because first of all… It’s dating and who wouldn’t be nervous… But also I’ve been researching and other sites are saying not to get on your knees, not to wrap your arms around their head, not to give them a bear hug, and these were all in articles where it’s not a forum, so you can’t ask questions like I am here. See if we were the same height I would just give her a hug and kiss her lips no big deal, but with what I read about not getting on your knees or giving them a pair etc. I’m not really sure if that’s correct. That’s why I’m asking how you would personally go about it. Would it actually be OK to do what I mentioned?

LadyGrace ·

@DattheFirsT EXACTLY. Anyone would be nervous. That's only natural. But I have all the confidence in the world that you will do great! Usually a person is so so nervous before they go and then once they get there with the person, then they kind of settle down and don't forget you have been with this girl before and done things and you've done great and you'll do it again.

Okay to answer your questions, no I wouldn't get on my knees if I were you. That would just seem to make her feel out of place I would think. It's important to just be natural like you would with any other person even though her height is shorter.

You wouldn't wrap your arms around any other woman's head, right? So don't do it to her. Again, just make the proper adjustments by bending down and you'll be fine. You'll find a way. You both will and remember you'll both be working at this together and I'm sure she's just as nervous as you are, trust me. You guys will navigate through this very well. If you feel awkward at a certain time, as to how you will do something, go ahead and give a laugh, make light of it, and it will ease the tension,. You'll both be laughing and then say, "I'm sorry.... I'm just feeling very awkward. You're going to have to help me." Then leave it at that and she will love helping you. Remember she's feeling the same way. You're in this together and it will work just fine. And then when she helps you, give her a little pinch on the cheek with your fingers and say "you're so smart!" and a silly kidding way. She'll love it.

DattheFirsT · 31-35, M

@LadyGrace
Thank you so much. I’m also a little worried about when we cuddle and snuggle up together . I’m probably just nervous like I said before, but I don’t want to be like a bear, (I’m terrible at explaining stuff), like I don’t want to be snuggling and I’m overwhelming to her or, you know what I’m trying to say? Like when you put on an oversized shirt or jacket, and how the jacket completely surrounds or engulfs you ..

LadyGrace ·

@DattheFirsT The very fact that you are aware of that and don't want to be overwhelming, shows me that you will automatically be conscious of that and won't do it. Just try to relax and not overthink things because when we keep dwelling on things it makes us more anxious. Just cuddle "loosely" a little bit, so then you won't feel like you're overwhelming her. I don't think you'll have a problem with this. I think she would tell you if she felt like it was too much. When will you be going out with her again? I can't wait to hear how it goes. I know it will be lovely.

DattheFirsT · 31-35, M

@LadyGrace we try to go out every week, so far. She is a little bit shy, not just with me but with anyone. I haven’t asked her about it but I’m assuming it is because of her dwarfism, because of her height she has a low self-esteem. That’s why I’m so worried because I know people who are shy like that have a very hard time speaking up and will just let stuff happen. But I want her to know that I love her and if she is uncomfortable then she can tell me. Same thing when I ask her questions, I don’t want to make her uncomfortable. I want to show her that I’m considering her differences and I want her to know that she can tell me anything

LadyGrace ·

@DattheFirsT That's really beautiful.