Easier said than done!

How do you get over a broken heart? Not everyone believes a heart can actually break but I beg to differ. I feel actual physical pain as well as the knots in my stomach. The heavy feeling in my chest. The constant ache. The anxiety when memories can't be forgotten. The feeling of betrayal when you have invested so much time into someone, only to have them not treat you the way treated them. Not have the same level of loyalty given back to you. Why do people hurt people? Is there any justifiable reason to break someone's heart? Time does heal some stuff, but the scab always remains. Any little thing can pick that scab off and bring everything to the surface again. You don't ever really heal, you just continue and try and mask it, until the next betrayal happens and it resurfaces. So yeh just wondering can a broken heart ever mend?

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BadAssTunaBotHoe

Nothing which is broken can ever be the exact same again, but it can still come to do everything that it used to do and it can even do it better and be stronger than ever before. The only thing which can't be returned is your innocence, of that which affected you.

The key components to recovery are time, will and effort. You have to be patient, you have to want it and you have to work for it. Of course we all want the pain to go away so that seems like a no brainer, but wanting to be better means being prepared to truly accept and make peace with what has happened. We can always choose to hold on to the grief for dear life and some people do. They can't always be blamed for that because some losses are so great and so impactful. Nevertheless, you have to choose to live on if you want life to be fulfilling again and you have to choose more than just existence.

rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@BadAssTunaBotHoe But what if it's just the straw that broke the camels back. The one that pushed you over the edge. The last in a long line? How do you deal then?

BadAssTunaBotHoe

@rawandauthentic That's where will comes in. You have to want to get better. When you no longer do then you likely never will, at least until such time as you find the will to go on. There are no physical limitations on our ability to recover from heartbreak, it just comes down to willpower.

rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@BadAssTunaBotHoe It just seems life happens and keeps happening even when you want it to stop. I know I am flawed and that is possibly why I attract the things that can go wrong, and I am working on myself, but it seems there is always more work to do and more room for improvement. I have memories from 10 or 15 or 20 years ago that no longer hurt so much, but at the time felt like they were going to kill me, but the scars remain. And you just keep asking why? Like why does this keep happening.

in10RjFox · M

It will never mend if one does not know how to deal with their heart. They make it vulnerable by putting the entire weight of their heart on to the other's heart without mercy

They only know when their heart pains, but they coolly hurt other's heart since they feel no pain.

It's never Trust and Betrayal, but Thrust and Betrayal.

rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@in10RjFox I like to invest all of me. The hurt sucks but I like to be authentically me and being me means loving as hard as a I can.

Mmiker · 46-50, M

The best is to grow through it and not wait for it to “heal.” Although time definitely helps the pain subside

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rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@Mmiker Yes, it does become dreadful. And how do you pull yourself out of dreadful? How do you even find a purpose or do people just fall into their purpose? Or do they fake it until they make it?

Mmiker · 46-50, M

@rawandauthentic can I dm you

rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@Mmiker Sure!

Justafantasy · M

Move on, find new interests. Do things without them. Some times this brings memories back, it also creates new ones

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Justafantasy · M

@rawandauthentic it's never going to make sense. One foot in front of the other. Don't look back(I know you will, I still am) forward is the only direction on life and it's hard sometimes

rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@Justafantasy My favorite thing to say these days. One foot in front of the other. My Achilles heal is constantly looking back and wondering what if? The what if messes with your head.

Justafantasy · M

@rawandauthentic the what-if should be what-if next time I do or don't act the same what will happen.

It's unfair to others to judge them based on people from your past. It's unfair to you not to.

Everything that has happened to us today makes us who we are tomorrow.

I treat people more cautiously, I know the things I don't want. I've watched a bunch of relationship videos and found some very relatable. "Men have reached a point due to past experiences of knowing exactly what they won't accept in a relationship". I'm guessing it applies to everyone

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@rawandauthentic Have your doctor prescribe an anti-depressant for you, such as a low dose Venlafaxine HCL ER 37.5 CP. It comes in higher doses.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements/venlafaxine-oral-route/description/drg-20067379

rawandauthentic · 46-50, FNew

@Diotrephes I've done the ad previously and don't want to go back there again. It numbs the bad stuff but also numbs the good stuff too, and I want to feel things, even if it means having to weather the bad.

darkknightt · M

If you are heart broken it manifests that you are kind and caring person, because more often than not, loving people are mostly hurt

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