Easier said than done!

How do you get over a broken heart? Not everyone believes a heart can actually break but I beg to differ. I feel actual physical pain as well as the knots in my stomach. The heavy feeling in my chest. The constant ache. The anxiety when memories can't be forgotten. The feeling of betrayal when you have invested so much time into someone, only to have them not treat you the way treated them. Not have the same level of loyalty given back to you. Why do people hurt people? Is there any justifiable reason to break someone's heart? Time does heal some stuff, but the scab always remains. Any little thing can pick that scab off and bring everything to the surface again. You don't ever really heal, you just continue and try and mask it, until the next betrayal happens and it resurfaces. So yeh just wondering can a broken heart ever mend?

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in10RjFox · M

It will never mend if one does not know how to deal with their heart. They make it vulnerable by putting the entire weight of their heart on to the other's heart without mercy

They only know when their heart pains, but they coolly hurt other's heart since they feel no pain.

It's never Trust and Betrayal, but Thrust and Betrayal.

rawandauthentic · 46-50, F

@in10RjFox I like to invest all of me. The hurt sucks but I like to be authentically me and being me means loving as hard as a I can.

in10RjFox · M

@rawandauthentic You can be you. But would you let the other be their selves? It is fine, as long as they don't feel you are overbearing on them. Roots start to grow as soon as the relationship begins and life gets wired. What if you become like a conjoined twin to the other and just be part of them all the time?

rawandauthentic · 46-50, F

@in10RjFox That seems to be my problem. Letting the other person be themselves? Or is it just I have too high expectations. Or maybe I take people at face value and believe what they initially sell. Or maybe, just maybe, I assume everyone is like me and won't deliberately hurt me. I like to believe on some level you can become part of someone else, while still being an individual within a partnership. Often it seems that I may not like the way someone does things or says things, because it is not what I want to see or hear. So yeh possibly the work needs to go into myself.