To all the wives in thr group

It’s basically managing entitlement and anger. This is not limited to wives. Husbands do it too.

Withholding affection and even communication is simply a childish tantrum from an adult. It is entirely ineffective, EXCEPT to cause more hurt and distance.

This sort of behavior can erode the trust between partners. And often, the rejected partner may just give up and leave.

When we were dealing with my husband’s brain cancer, early days, he was forbidden to drive. He drove anyway, to get the air level checked in his tires. I was trying so hard to keep him safe and I felt disrespected.

He returned to the house and came to the kitchen where I was washing dishes and tried to hug me. I shrugged him off angrily and ignored his efforts to talk to me.

I would give anything to have that interaction back. It didn’t destroy us but I wrecked some precious moments. And learned a lesson.

Not a wife but I think this subtle backstage psychology applies to a variety of relationships. Mamapolo said it really wonderfully...
I'd like to add, from my viewpoint..
Women tend to give endlessly and sometimes in the cost of their own wellbeing to a degree of pushing their bodily needs even, to a point that is creating anger and <<Resentment>>

Even if a woman isn't straight experiencing this, she might have had inherited feelings from her mum and grandma even. The endless sacrifice.

Men suffer from their own wounds. But you are right to notice that in women I believe.
I've read an old book, an older friend of mine had in her little library and I borrowed, called "women who love too much" that is focusing on this wound. It's in its basis, a father's wound that's driving the woman trying to gain the confirmation she missed from her dad, through her husband.
Reading that book, and other similar ones, be aware, might drive a woman -like it did with me- to go through a feminist/selfish behaviour for a while, until she acknowledges her self and is able to move on and find balance and equanimity again, between self and partner.

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Great question...

Why y'all always getting upset?

Because they don't realize how good they have it until they've lost it. Your friends are always encouraging them to do bad things to their husbands while their husband's friends are always encouraging them to support their wife.

Not a wive but viewing from the perspective of a very old person already whilst having seen and talked to three or four successive generations of parents, I notice that there's also a change in the intensity of the whole upsetting arguing and petty moves. Perhaps it's because first of all television and now social media too are throwing their rather immature little talking points into the discussion? Or perhaps it's just that we're all too immature to know when to quit? When a person tells me that I always want to have the last word, I quit doing that. Over to you

It's not peculiar to women, or to heterosexual relationships, there is usually responsibility on both sides for failing to communicate, emphathise, or compromise.

I am blessed in being married to a woman with autism traits. Silent treatment and other passive aggressions are simply out of the question as she is unable to process these. The alternative is a lot of frank talking and quite hard work at times, but does wonders for a relationship.

We are trying to pass on positive communication skills to our daughter.

Could be an innate reaction to disrespect from the one person who should take care of us instead of bring us emotional pain. Maybe it’s such a jolt to our system that we shut down in an attempt to reset future expectations from that person. Or maybe we go into self preservation mode instantly so we feel the need to swallow everything we want to say because we know heated words can bring regret later on.

There is a movement where people trying to get women to hate their husbands who voted for Trump.

Also the Single ones will target men with threats.


Not all though.

It's a short failing movement.

There’s no logic, they just want everything to be about themselves

At least you are aware of it. That's the first step.

The way I see things is how a man looks at his workplace for security is like a woman looks at her marriage for security, who trusts the company and the boss, we will stay in that job if we are happy and if we get sacked we will try to go to court to get as much money.