To all the wives in thr group

There's a stereotype of wives being angry/upset with their husbands. Either jokingly or in all seriousness.
I too am currently in a silent war with the husband even though we are generally a very happy couple.
Why do we women do this? I'm trying ro understand the psychology behind this behaviour.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

It’s basically managing entitlement and anger. This is not limited to wives. Husbands do it too.

Withholding affection and even communication is simply a childish tantrum from an adult. It is entirely ineffective, EXCEPT to cause more hurt and distance.

This sort of behavior can erode the trust between partners. And often, the rejected partner may just give up and leave.

When we were dealing with my husband’s brain cancer, early days, he was forbidden to drive. He drove anyway, to get the air level checked in his tires. I was trying so hard to keep him safe and I felt disrespected.

He returned to the house and came to the kitchen where I was washing dishes and tried to hug me. I shrugged him off angrily and ignored his efforts to talk to me.

I would give anything to have that interaction back. It didn’t destroy us but I wrecked some precious moments. And learned a lesson.