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Have you ever experienced limerence?

symptoms and
characteristics of limerence:
Consistent and intrusive thoughts about the LO
Idealization of the LO e.g. “they are perfect.”
Constantly being reminded of the LO by places, people, objects, and situations
Intense fear of being rejected by the LO
Fluctuations of mood depending on whether the LO seems to reciprocate feelings or not e.g. feeling happy when they call and devastated when they don’t
Overwhelming emotions ranging from euphoria to distress
Being awkward, shy, and clumsy around LO
Spending excessive amounts of time grooming or beautifying yourself to impress the LO
Another focal aspect of limerence is that these symptoms or feelings are experienced for one person.
Furthermore, this obsession significantly impacts other areas of life, such as work, social life, and hobbies.

Yes, when still a teenager.
It got knocked out of me when I realized he didn't feel the same.
The disappointment was so intense that I never fell in love again. I loved and still love, but never with that in-love or sexual-romantic component.

I expect most teenagers become intoxicated with some love-object - a rite of passage in adolescence.
But I suspect adults who experience limerence are likely to be love addicts.
Sorta, but it caused me to be resentful.

I was working years back in a hospital, and a dietician walked past me, a slender brunette with perfect hair and geeky glasses, snd the combination knocked the air out of me. I wasn't able to breathe for a good moment, and she and another dietician (female) noticed, and I regained my composure.

I didn't know her name. But whenever we went by one another I was compelled to sneak a glance at her. There was a long abandoned breakroom and I would use it sometimes, and it was just my place, and saw her start sitting in there and so avoided her. Likewise in the cafeteria I would always sit in the same spot and once she was there and I stood confused for a good 5 seconds processing it, before comprehending I had to go elsewhere. She was often on my mind. He voice instantly clicked in my head.

I didn't like the level of instinctive control she had over me. I later found out she was engaged and eventually this feeling went away. I just mostly avoided her and if I had to interact with her department I went to the fat chick and communicated with her.

I wouldn't say I loved her, just uncontrollably lusted for her on a primal level I had no real control over, and I didn't like that.
Gosh yes, but i try to keep my wits if i can help it. i'm a little TOO prone to that nonsense at times 😞
twistedrope · 26-30, M
I googled that and sure. I'm pretty sure every infatuation before you speak to the person is like that. Or every infatuation before you broach the subject.

I think it would be a very difficult thing for a person to not consider they might not the others cup of tea. Those who never think that, I would see as a bit strange.
RSquared · 61-69, M
I had to look up the word but I absolutely did when younger. And maybe even at some points online I'm not sure. But yeah. To answer the question of ever, yes.
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
Wow never heard of the term until today - you really do learn something every day.

And limerence even has 4 'stages'.
Selah ·
Maybe once. I knew something was wrong at the time. Even tho the feeling was very heady and cascading over me.
taneegoan · 31-35, F
I always hate romance and emotional tie up since my teen so never have such things in my life
Once, a long time ago

In a galaxy far, far away…
Northwest · M
Not really. I'm an adult.
@Northwest Adults experience limerance all the time. But if you don't have it, that's great. 👍🏼
Northwest · M
@PhoenixPhail limerance is not a universal condition, and while I'm sure some adults experience, it's not an "adults" condition.
Yup
Nick Rhodes from Duran Duran, and my marine biology lecturer....oh gosh he was cute 😍
StarsMISaligned · 51-55, F
@OogieBoogie mine was John Taylor!
@StarsMISaligned oh i miss the naiveté of those years🤗
caccoon · 36-40
No. I've never come across anyone who has affected me in that way.

 
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