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symptoms and
characteristics of limerence:
Consistent and intrusive thoughts about the LO
Idealization of the LO e.g. “they are perfect.”
Constantly being reminded of the LO by places, people, objects, and situations
Intense fear of being rejected by the LO
Fluctuations of mood depending on whether the LO seems to reciprocate feelings or not e.g. feeling happy when they call and devastated when they don’t
Overwhelming emotions ranging from euphoria to distress
Being awkward, shy, and clumsy around LO
Spending excessive amounts of time grooming or beautifying yourself to impress the LO
Another focal aspect of limerence is that these symptoms or feelings are experienced for one person.
Furthermore, this obsession significantly impacts other areas of life, such as work, social life, and hobbies.
Yes, when still a teenager.
It got knocked out of me when I realized he didn't feel the same.
The disappointment was so intense that I never fell in love again. I loved and still love, but never with that in-love or sexual-romantic component.
I expect most teenagers become intoxicated with some love-object - a rite of passage in adolescence.
But I suspect adults who experience limerence are likely to be love addicts.
characteristics of limerence:
Consistent and intrusive thoughts about the LO
Idealization of the LO e.g. “they are perfect.”
Constantly being reminded of the LO by places, people, objects, and situations
Intense fear of being rejected by the LO
Fluctuations of mood depending on whether the LO seems to reciprocate feelings or not e.g. feeling happy when they call and devastated when they don’t
Overwhelming emotions ranging from euphoria to distress
Being awkward, shy, and clumsy around LO
Spending excessive amounts of time grooming or beautifying yourself to impress the LO
Another focal aspect of limerence is that these symptoms or feelings are experienced for one person.
Furthermore, this obsession significantly impacts other areas of life, such as work, social life, and hobbies.
Yes, when still a teenager.
It got knocked out of me when I realized he didn't feel the same.
The disappointment was so intense that I never fell in love again. I loved and still love, but never with that in-love or sexual-romantic component.
I expect most teenagers become intoxicated with some love-object - a rite of passage in adolescence.
But I suspect adults who experience limerence are likely to be love addicts.
Sorta, but it caused me to be resentful.
I was working years back in a hospital, and a dietician walked past me, a slender brunette with perfect hair and geeky glasses, snd the combination knocked the air out of me. I wasn't able to breathe for a good moment, and she and another dietician (female) noticed, and I regained my composure.
I didn't know her name. But whenever we went by one another I was compelled to sneak a glance at her. There was a long abandoned breakroom and I would use it sometimes, and it was just my place, and saw her start sitting in there and so avoided her. Likewise in the cafeteria I would always sit in the same spot and once she was there and I stood confused for a good 5 seconds processing it, before comprehending I had to go elsewhere. She was often on my mind. He voice instantly clicked in my head.
I didn't like the level of instinctive control she had over me. I later found out she was engaged and eventually this feeling went away. I just mostly avoided her and if I had to interact with her department I went to the fat chick and communicated with her.
I wouldn't say I loved her, just uncontrollably lusted for her on a primal level I had no real control over, and I didn't like that.
I was working years back in a hospital, and a dietician walked past me, a slender brunette with perfect hair and geeky glasses, snd the combination knocked the air out of me. I wasn't able to breathe for a good moment, and she and another dietician (female) noticed, and I regained my composure.
I didn't know her name. But whenever we went by one another I was compelled to sneak a glance at her. There was a long abandoned breakroom and I would use it sometimes, and it was just my place, and saw her start sitting in there and so avoided her. Likewise in the cafeteria I would always sit in the same spot and once she was there and I stood confused for a good 5 seconds processing it, before comprehending I had to go elsewhere. She was often on my mind. He voice instantly clicked in my head.
I didn't like the level of instinctive control she had over me. I later found out she was engaged and eventually this feeling went away. I just mostly avoided her and if I had to interact with her department I went to the fat chick and communicated with her.
I wouldn't say I loved her, just uncontrollably lusted for her on a primal level I had no real control over, and I didn't like that.
twistedrope · 26-30, M
I googled that and sure. I'm pretty sure every infatuation before you speak to the person is like that. Or every infatuation before you broach the subject.
I think it would be a very difficult thing for a person to not consider they might not the others cup of tea. Those who never think that, I would see as a bit strange.
I think it would be a very difficult thing for a person to not consider they might not the others cup of tea. Those who never think that, I would see as a bit strange.
butterflybaby75 · 46-50, F
HijabaDabbaDoo · F
PhoenixPhail · M
Northwest · M
Not really. I'm an adult.
PhoenixPhail · M
@Northwest Adults experience limerance all the time. But if you don't have it, that's great. 👍🏼
ThreeLittleBirds · F
OogieBoogie · F
Starsaligned · 51-55, F
@OogieBoogie mine was John Taylor!
OogieBoogie · F
@Starsaligned oh i miss the naiveté of those years🤗
aboveaverageaveragejoe · 51-55, M