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hartfire · 61-69
symptoms and
characteristics of limerence:
Consistent and intrusive thoughts about the LO
Idealization of the LO e.g. “they are perfect.”
Constantly being reminded of the LO by places, people, objects, and situations
Intense fear of being rejected by the LO
Fluctuations of mood depending on whether the LO seems to reciprocate feelings or not e.g. feeling happy when they call and devastated when they don’t
Overwhelming emotions ranging from euphoria to distress
Being awkward, shy, and clumsy around LO
Spending excessive amounts of time grooming or beautifying yourself to impress the LO
Another focal aspect of limerence is that these symptoms or feelings are experienced for one person.
Furthermore, this obsession significantly impacts other areas of life, such as work, social life, and hobbies.
Yes, when still a teenager.
It got knocked out of me when I realized he didn't feel the same.
The disappointment was so intense that I never fell in love again. I loved and still love, but never with that in-love or sexual-romantic component.
I expect most teenagers become intoxicated with some love-object - a rite of passage in adolescence.
But I suspect adults who experience limerence are likely to be love addicts.
characteristics of limerence:
Consistent and intrusive thoughts about the LO
Idealization of the LO e.g. “they are perfect.”
Constantly being reminded of the LO by places, people, objects, and situations
Intense fear of being rejected by the LO
Fluctuations of mood depending on whether the LO seems to reciprocate feelings or not e.g. feeling happy when they call and devastated when they don’t
Overwhelming emotions ranging from euphoria to distress
Being awkward, shy, and clumsy around LO
Spending excessive amounts of time grooming or beautifying yourself to impress the LO
Another focal aspect of limerence is that these symptoms or feelings are experienced for one person.
Furthermore, this obsession significantly impacts other areas of life, such as work, social life, and hobbies.
Yes, when still a teenager.
It got knocked out of me when I realized he didn't feel the same.
The disappointment was so intense that I never fell in love again. I loved and still love, but never with that in-love or sexual-romantic component.
I expect most teenagers become intoxicated with some love-object - a rite of passage in adolescence.
But I suspect adults who experience limerence are likely to be love addicts.