My boyfriend calls me Fat…

…And I am..🥺😔…I’m more than 20 lbs heavier than when we met(which was 10 years ago).. I injured my tailbone and couldn’t work out for atleast a year. And then I was having some money issues. I ate to cope with it; the emotions of it all… I got fat it’s true🥺. I know I’m on the side of being too big for my height. My boyfriend calls me Fat. I started working out. It’s not easy 😅 I used to have abs! I used to be fit! It’s hard to get the body to burn. I work at a restaurant and have to smell delicious food all day😖 And I’m Fat I get it! He tells me all the time…Smh ..🥹 it doesn’t help. I can’t enter the room without him mentioning. I have a “double chin”. I “look like a tick; nice limbs but round in the middle”. “Did you gain Even More weight than before!?” He sometime pokes or pats my stomach. I tell him that that’s rude to do to a lady! He does it. I tell him that when he says things like that it hurts my feelings. He does it. I tell him I’m trying to lose it it just won’t disappear all at once( like I wish it would!😢) He tells me I’m fat. Shakes his head in disappointment… His family loves me. My family loves him. Friends think we’re great together 🥹🥹…” If you lose a great guy like that- I’ll think you’re crazy! He’s great!”… They don’t know he calls me fat, or how many times a day he says it. “Everything is Perfect” 😭… I can’t take it anymore. I stay strong. I tell him over and over again to stop….smh. We’ve built a great life together. We have a cat. But “I’m fat” 😭 And i dont know who To turn to! He won’t stop! I dont know what to do!

HobNoblin · 36-40, M

@Subalugirl You've got subcutanious fat but not the nasty rolls you see on a lot of women. Eat clean, lots of protein and exercise. Running is good. You're pretty young as well so you can probably lose that preatty easy.

Dignaga

Everyone telling you move on from this boyfriend is missing a more important issue. You're fat, and you know it. He's merely a gadfly, you can stay with him or not, but you will still be fat afterwards in either case.

Assuming you don't want to be a fatty stuck in body positivity hell, I would recommend looking into diet changes and exercise. I was depressed for over a decade in isolation and gained alot of weight- I got on the keto diet and loss alot of weight, then hit a plateau where I at least coupdn't easily gain the weight back. Last thing I needed was a bunch of people tellijg me to love myself and have body positivity. I needed people to call me fat to shake me out of it and change. Just I was so isolated they couldn't do it. So I stayed fat. It was unhealthy and bad for me.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

He clearly doesn’t respect you or your feelings. You know what to do. You’re just not ready/willing to do it.