My boyfriend calls me Fat…

…And I am..🥺😔…I’m more than 20 lbs heavier than when we met(which was 10 years ago).. I injured my tailbone and couldn’t work out for atleast a year. And then I was having some money issues. I ate to cope with it; the emotions of it all… I got fat it’s true🥺. I know I’m on the side of being too big for my height. My boyfriend calls me Fat. I started working out. It’s not easy 😅 I used to have abs! I used to be fit! It’s hard to get the body to burn. I work at a restaurant and have to smell delicious food all day😖 And I’m Fat I get it! He tells me all the time…Smh ..🥹 it doesn’t help. I can’t enter the room without him mentioning. I have a “double chin”. I “look like a tick; nice limbs but round in the middle”. “Did you gain Even More weight than before!?” He sometime pokes or pats my stomach. I tell him that that’s rude to do to a lady! He does it. I tell him that when he says things like that it hurts my feelings. He does it. I tell him I’m trying to lose it it just won’t disappear all at once( like I wish it would!😢) He tells me I’m fat. Shakes his head in disappointment… His family loves me. My family loves him. Friends think we’re great together 🥹🥹…” If you lose a great guy like that- I’ll think you’re crazy! He’s great!”… They don’t know he calls me fat, or how many times a day he says it. “Everything is Perfect” 😭… I can’t take it anymore. I stay strong. I tell him over and over again to stop….smh. We’ve built a great life together. We have a cat. But “I’m fat” 😭 And i dont know who To turn to! He won’t stop! I dont know what to do!

Dignaga

Everyone telling you move on from this boyfriend is missing a more important issue. You're fat, and you know it. He's merely a gadfly, you can stay with him or not, but you will still be fat afterwards in either case.

Assuming you don't want to be a fatty stuck in body positivity hell, I would recommend looking into diet changes and exercise. I was depressed for over a decade in isolation and gained alot of weight- I got on the keto diet and loss alot of weight, then hit a plateau where I at least coupdn't easily gain the weight back. Last thing I needed was a bunch of people tellijg me to love myself and have body positivity. I needed people to call me fat to shake me out of it and change. Just I was so isolated they couldn't do it. So I stayed fat. It was unhealthy and bad for me.