What would you do? Someone wants to start a relationship with you but they dont want to...

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

Unless they share children there's no need for exes to be in each other's lives.

2ndtimeguy · 61-69, M

Between marriages went on a date with a girl that friends knew she was pretty and nice and had a good time so called her 2 or 3 times to try and get another date. She finally confessed she had been dating this other guy before me and wasnt sure about us, I told no problem there was no us and I wouldnt call her anymore.

This comment is hidden. Show Comment

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

It depends on what kind of ties they are with the x if they are romantic ties then I definitely agree however a lot of people maintain friendships with their EX on a platonic level and I see nothing wrong with that if it was a good breakup and they have the solid understanding that that person is with someone else now as long as it is above board to me that is a valid exception

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

The same as you. Way to stick to your healthy boundaries.

Sapio · 51-55, M

It depends. However, in my experience, most people keep ties with an ex as a sort of 'just in case'. They're not quite over that person or there's an agreement made between the two. So I think you made the wisest choice.

SilentObZerver · 22-25, M

Honesty i think perhaps you are being a bit too hard on the guy.

To say he should COMPLETELY cut ties with his ex, is quite harsh.

Its very possible the guy not be having any amorous relationships with his ex, but there may certain issues that keeps lingering on from his past relationship, and which must be dealt with , thereby bringing his ex into the picture

I think you are taking too far!
And you may lose the love of your life!

twistedrope · 26-30, M

I generally don't cut ties with exs however that line of communication pretty much dries up on its own. Life is too short to be culling everything in sight.

But that's me and everyone has a different view point. I am not the type of person to have an "Escape Hatch" but some are. Those escape hatch people are dangerous and not to be trusted.

For me, one person being an ex is just one more crappy thing to move past. Because I'm an adult.

Justforfun65 · 56-60, M

If they don’t cut ties with the ex you will be more of a side piece then in a relationship

lovingdead · 31-35, M

well done, slow clap......and hug for having to make the painful choice

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

That first sentence is a deal-breaker if ever there was one. That's called dodging a bullet.

AnnabelleLeigh · F

It depends on why they won't cut contact for me. Do they have a child in common? Are they just friends? Is the ex their only support system? I'd be willing to check out the dynamic between them as long as the person isn't cheating at all and I am their priority.