Should I tell him? I have a long term long distance relationship. A year ago I cheated on him...

Set him free so he can find someone who treats him with honesty, dignity and respect. Obviously that’s not you.

melbonly87 · 61-69, M

That is a problrm with long distance relationships. If you cannot commit yourself to him 100%, you need to let him go.

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Let’s keep it simple.

You’re young. The fact you have a bf doesn’t mean diddley.

Unless you’re planning to marry out of the blue, both of you are likely to have many more relationships before you settle down.

The cheating is really just white noise in the story. You’re not ready for a mature committed relationship. Leave him alone so he can grow with someone that’ll be better for him than you.

It’s not a slight. You’re just not ready.

HootyTheNightOwl

Just ditch him... If you can't keep it in your pants, then he deserves better than you anyway.

The fact that you're keeping secrets now is not a sign of a "great and healthy" relationship at all.

In fact, the fact that you can't keep your pants up should be a serious red flag for him - especially when combined with hiding your dirty little secret. You can't be trusted to be faithful to him... and, without trust, you have no relationship.

SW-User

All you can do is tell the truth. I can’t say whether your relationship will survive or not, but any relationship based on lies will fester and they will come out eventually.

in10RjFox · MVIP

Long distance are for short term only and cannot last long without sex. Better to switch to open relationship rather than calling yourself unfaithful, cheat etc. live the moment, the present and keep ldr for future.

Or simply break up and free each other.

DrScissorhands

Once a cheater, always a cheater and all that

Samek · 36-40, M

To begin with, long distance relationships are very hard to have because of a lack of physical connection. Right now your in love with a concept than a person.

Secondly, you are quite young. Enjoy life being single and not having to worry about what a relation thinks of your behavior as you discover and learn to love yourself.

MoveAlong · 70-79, M

You should be honest and tell him what happened. Then expect him to move along. You know you'll probably do it again.

HumanEarth · F

Dump him, move on

If your cheating, proof you don't love him

SomeMichGuy · M

Why do you have this long-distance relationship?

Quetzalcoatlus · 46-50, M

If you keep cheating on him, he’s not the one. Just go be with the one you respect.

astrosandorbits · 26-30, M

Do him a favor and leave him. And don't get into a monogamous relationship until you can control yourself. Grow up.

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Yes

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, FVIP

long term long distance relationships never last. I would just break up with him

Tonydang · M

That’s your first mistake long distance relationships just don’t work I know you say his a good man and I’m sure you’re right but you said the magic word “man” his probably having sex on the side also like you have were human don’t stress to much about it

Gingerbreadspice · F

No you shouldn’t tell him, your conscience deserves to suffer. Yes dump him especially if he’s long distance forever or for a few years yet to come because you won’t stay faithful. He might not be either.

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tfan123 · 46-50, M

Shame shame everyone knows your name!

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MayorOfCrushtown · M

Just dump him and set him free.

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