Should I tell him?

I have a long term long distance relationship. A year ago I cheated on him with my co worker and he gave me a second chance. My bf (M22) is agood man, he is kind, loving, treats me like a princess and hard-working and I can't say bad about him. Our relationship is great and healthy. Until I met this other man, I don't think that i like him that much but he has a good humor, not too kind but has a good heart. We hooked up. Again. After a year, we cheated again. We both told each other that we don't like each one, it's just that we just wanted to have sx. We're both on a long distance relationship. We don't like each other. My conscience is killing me. I don't know how to tell it to my bf rn. My co worker already told his girlfriend about what happened and because we did it twice, they broke up. I'm afraid that he'll broke up with me too. I'm so dumb for doing it to him.

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Adogslife · 61-69, M

Let’s keep it simple.

You’re young. The fact you have a bf doesn’t mean diddley.

Unless you’re planning to marry out of the blue, both of you are likely to have many more relationships before you settle down.

The cheating is really just white noise in the story. You’re not ready for a mature committed relationship. Leave him alone so he can grow with someone that’ll be better for him than you.

It’s not a slight. You’re just not ready.

OnceShining · 22-25, F

@Adogslife I'm kind of afraid to tell him. I can't imagine what would his family, our friends and other people that knows about us tell abt me. We've been together for 4 yrs. I really don't know how to tell him

Adogslife · 61-69, M

@OnceShining Tell him the reality. You’re just not feeling it and would rather be single. Don’t complicate it with the second cheating episode. That’d be mean. Keep it simple.