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Needing to VENT

I know I shouldn't but something keeps him on my mind. I fell like I should let him go but he keeps showing back up and he's on my mind costately. His Specialty is ghosting me and then he text me about once a month and gives me some lame excuse. The last time he told me to leave him alone so I took his number out of my phone so I wouldn't even be tempted. I woke up this morning with a text from him. I love his so much but I also know I should not respond but I am going to because I love him. I am not sure if he is capable of giving me anything but why not try I am almost 60 and just want to crawl in a hole and disappear because that is the way I feel.
Sweetheart, I know you love him and I know you're lonely, but you must always tell yourself the truth so that you can move on with your life and find someone who will reciprocate your feelings. I know it's hard but you will find someone that is just for you. This man is clearly not emotionally available for you. You must really read what he told you:

The last time he told me to leave him alone so I took his number out of my phone so I wouldn't even be tempted.

Read that carefully. And read it again. Honey this man is not ghosting you. You are ghosting him. He told you his exact feelings, that he doesn't want you calling him and he wants you to leave him alone. You must accept that. This is no reflection on you. Certain people have certain preferences just like you do. This man just happens to have different preferences when it comes to who he wants to hang out with, so you must value his decision and respect it. It really is not the end of the world. I went through that but I didn't keep after the person I loved so much. I realized that I had to let this person go because I just wasn't his preference. Nothing personal. I'm so glad I did because it allowed me to go on with my life. You must always tell yourself the truth. Don't waste your energy on someone that is wanting to move on. Get excited about finding that person that is out there looking for you, as well. Think about what he looks like and how happy you both will be when you find each other and then go out and find him but be careful and don't get in a rush about it. I wish you the best in your journey. 馃
Primnproper56-60, F
Ventings good, get it out, then you may see it all more clearly.
Primnproper56-60, F
@Iknowyourouttheresomewhere you fibber! Who threw you a banana! 馃槀
Primnproper56-60, F
Miram31-35, F
SWers, you all need to shut the eff up and let this lady vent. No one asked for your advice. Shut it.

Thank you.
Summerstorms201851-55, F
Block any means of communication between you and this person. It will be very hard but for the best. You are teaching him how to treat you poorly each time you reply. 馃様. Know it all too well.
lwshm6456-60, F
@Summerstorms2018 Wow I do know this people don't seam to understand I was just venting
Summerstorms201851-55, F
@lwshm64 just trying to help, sorry if it came across any other way.
lwshm6456-60, F
@Summerstorms2018 No problem
antonioioio70-79, M
You can't make someone love you 鈾ワ笍
antonioioio70-79, M
@lwshm64 i know exactly what you ment
But you don't seem to know what I meant by my last comment
lwshm6456-60, F
@antonioioio And that's your opinion and I am okay with that
antonioioio70-79, M
@lwshm64 did you ever hear the expression
You can bring the horse to the water
But you can't make him drink it
Hope that venting brings you clarity in making whatever decision is best for you. 馃檪
Without knowing the complete situation obviously, my opinion is you should just block his number and move on. If not, expect this to continue and live with it.
Sounds like he wants a FWB, not a long term relationship.
lwshm6456-60, F
@Teslin Were not even having sex so that part. and I was just VENTING.
twistedrope26-30, M
That sounds really horrible. I'm sorry someones got such a grip on you. I hope your strength wins out over this. You seem pretty strong.
akindheart61-69, F
think higher of yourself. refuse to be used because that is what he is doing. using you because he knows you will always respond.
Wolf0Bank46-50, M
Build a dungeon in your basement and hold him in there for a few months or years till you get bored from him.
iamonfire69641-45, F
Hugs to you 馃┓

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