Is the show right? 🤔 🌎🌍🌏

I concluded something similar years ago. Statistical likelihood is an ideal match exists. Finding them? Statistically unlikely. Unless... you live your life doing really those things that are most meaningful to you personally, not just going with the crowd, and you keep doing that - seeking out opportunities to do so with other people from all over the planet, literally, then maybe statically more likely, but even then, could take a long, long time. Surely mathematicians must have looked at this by now?

Besides, I also concluded that two reasonable people who are strong in their relationship skills and like each other can probably have a strong, lasting relationship, because they understand compassionately and are able to flex and compromise in their relationships - all of them, not just romantic ones. So obsessing about "finding the one" is likely to result in loneliness, disappointment and failure.

The idea these days of "entitlement": everyone is entitled to their ideal partner, their ideal job... more like ideal bullshit, is maybe for children who haven't grown up yet. They could still be children even after half a century on this planet from what I've experienced, so it's not an age thing in my opinion.

Just my thoughts, as you requested!

I’m not really sure your friend understood the message of the show. In the show whole soulmate idea is a farce created by the antagonist to torment the characters. Because the characters believe the person they’ve been paired with is their soulmate they stay in unhappy relationships despite all the signs they are not a good fit for each other. The happy relationships in the show come about from appreciating people for who they are and the realness, randomness of life. Everyone is much happier in the show when they choose people that enrich their life rather than insist on forced relationships based on who/how they wish the other person was.

Edit: Statistically, you’re more likely to end up in a compatible relationship with the people who live near you, because those are the relationships you get to develop the most by having shared experiences together, relatively frequently where you get to observe/engage in with who they really are faster. Of course, if you live someplace with a high population of people who aren’t compatible with your values, then that’s harder. For someone like me, I’d probably have to date a lot to find someone I hit it off with if I lived in Alabama, for example. Where I live now wasn’t one great guy after another, but there definitely was more common ground.

My thoughts --

If it's meant to be, we will find the one. Or they will find us.

But, everyone needs to go both ways first (or however many ways exists nowadays)
.. cos going only one way, limits the probability of finding that soulmate.

The Good Place?
I doubt that's true but gotta believe in something.

It is hard to find someone who faced life's challenges and comes out thinking like you

If you get lucky, good. But if you don't, then you gotta search. That person exists. Actually, more than one compatible soul. We just overlook them when near or we just gotta find them far

There has been this idea that everyone has a perfect match somewhere but there's no evidence to support it. I think it's more the case that where people are prepared to compromise for a relationship there is more chance of it being successful.

I don't believe in souk mates but I believe in compatibility.

This soul mate crap is made up. You make it by working at a relationship. There's no easy way. You do need to find someone that's your best friend. But then it's work. Facing challenges that want to break you up,yet the two of you work together to hold it and make it work . That being the thing,make it work.
Unless it's abusive. Then run

I don't know. The thing is, with 8 billion people on this planet, I'm sure there's somebody who is perfectly compatible with everyone, but the odds of them getting together are so low.

I legit have traveled the world and I have yet to meet this "soulmate" people keep talking.

Just be yourself and don't go looking too hard. It will find you