Is the show right? 🤔 🌎🌍🌏

So me and a few friends were talking, usual nonsense and whatever
And then the topic of relationships and marriage come up 🫣

And apparently it’s mentioned on the show the Good Place? ( I haven’t seen it yet )

Where everyone has an actual soul mate, but it’s never usually the person that we end up with. It’s some complete stranger on the other side of the World. The only reason we never actually find them it’s either because we never travel there or it just never happens.

I thought it was bs, but the more I think about it, it kinda makes sense. It sounds bad but we basically just look for the love of our life in our city or wherever we live.

Maybe our perfect match is somewhere across the World? Im definitely overthinking this… 😒

Thoughts anyone?

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PhilDeep · 51-55, M Best Comment

I concluded something similar years ago. Statistical likelihood is an ideal match exists. Finding them? Statistically unlikely. Unless... you live your life doing really those things that are most meaningful to you personally, not just going with the crowd, and you keep doing that - seeking out opportunities to do so with other people from all over the planet, literally, then maybe statically more likely, but even then, could take a long, long time. Surely mathematicians must have looked at this by now?

Besides, I also concluded that two reasonable people who are strong in their relationship skills and like each other can probably have a strong, lasting relationship, because they understand compassionately and are able to flex and compromise in their relationships - all of them, not just romantic ones. So obsessing about "finding the one" is likely to result in loneliness, disappointment and failure.

The idea these days of "entitlement": everyone is entitled to their ideal partner, their ideal job... more like ideal bullshit, is maybe for children who haven't grown up yet. They could still be children even after half a century on this planet from what I've experienced, so it's not an age thing in my opinion.

Just my thoughts, as you requested!

Ashly · 26-30, F

@PhilDeep wow, you definitely thought this through 😳

I know, at first I was like whatever but now it’s all I can think about 🫣
And like you said, statistically speaking, it seems impossible ☹️