If a man cheats on his wife?

I just went through this and still healing from it. I asked my husband many times if he was still attracted to her and he kept saying no. I believed him. But as the months passed by (now it’s been 2 years) I see here and there that he looks her up. And I’ve asked many times if he’s not attracted to her then why he looks for her. So no, it doesn’t just disappear. Currently, I careless about him. I can’t stand him sometimes. He’s changed me completely and I hate him for that. Why am I still with him? We just had a bby. But eventually I’ll find my way out of this relationship. Sorry I ended up venting. But the same questions and thoughts you have, I had. (Just yesterday I seen his search history , and surely he looked her up on July,I was pregnant…lucky him I don’t love him like I used to. So it honestly didn’t hurt me, and also it didn’t surprised me). Some men are sick and selfish.

Men lie, many don’t expect to get caught, then they keep lying to save themselves, sorry you’re going through this.

Men compartmentalize sex.

I cheated on my long term gf. The other woman was a nothing more than a socket I used for entertainment. I felt very badly that I hurt my gfs feeling so badly. I tried to make it up to her and she forgave me. I assured her the other woman meant nothing to me at all and that she had nothing to ever fear that I would ever leave her. I apologized for being immature and greedy. I made many overtures to rebuild the relationship. I think it worked. I was eventually forgiven.

I don’t know for sure. All I know is, I make women cheat on their husbands. After I am done, they can tell him they were never attracted to me, it’s all good. I move on to the next woman. 😄

😢😢😢 I feel SO badly for you. Yes, unless he is receiving chemical castration treatments, or is gay, he is lying his balls off. Men are very nearly ruled by their own testosterone, and they will always feel lust for other women if the right elements are there.

I'm not sure, but I'd have a hard time believing him because I don't have much faith in people.

He is lying. And if he could still screw her without getting caught...he would.

Looks like, despite knowing the guy is married, you're still hoping he would leave his wife/family for you.

He's a cheater, and he will find a lot of women attractive, and will try to cheat if he can away with it.

At some point, when he convinces his wife that it meant nothing, he will try to contact you again.

He lied to you, but now you know, and the ball is in your court.

Whether he's attracted to her or not is unlikely to be the issue.
What you want to know is [b]why[/b] he cheated in the first place !

It's unlikely that he sees her as 'the ideal woman' because even younger men know that's unlikely to ever exist !
So is there something she has that he was attracted to ?
Or was she 'an escape' from whatever led him to her in the first place ?

chances are, he is lying. but, i cant say for sure, because he may not have even been attracted to her in the first place. there are some men..... and women too....... who can have sex with someone without being attracted to them.

Yes, it could have been that "he had to have her," and nothing more. It may have been a sexual urge that needed to be fulfilled and there were no emotions to begin with.

First if a man cheats he is piece of shit. Break it off or tell her why. Dont cheat. This is what turns ladies sour against men. Or stay single.

Ofc you can't be attracted always to a single person...Attraction to many person happens.But love?It comes only on a very few ones.Attraction is like how you crave for KFC wings and once your full you're not going to take another piece.But does it mean you don't like it?No.You are going to come back to it afterwards again and again and the cycle repeats.This is how you sustain relationship.Based on love,trust and loyalty...and not on attraction and sex.In no way should a woman/man cheating be empathized with.

Hes not interested in you. This question is very airheaded cominh from a 31-35 year old. Grow up , get some self respect, stop being to insecure and get therapy for your trauma

No, he could be over her but because he was with her may look her up just because he is inquisitive. Normally when men are really over a relationship he really is. Fed up, tired of her or even bored with her. Still, if the wife he cheated on forgave him and he went back to her, he really need to get his mind straight and start treating his wife as his wife and be faithful to her.

Does it work the same way if a woman cheats on her husband?

Ya, it can just disappear. Happen to me many times

He is liar. Get away from him.

I don't know. I don't cheat.

Yeah ofcourse. Just as he lost attraction to his wife he can lose attraction to his mistress . Attraction can come and go

some times attraction do have any thing to do with sex,, sex is where you find it,

If a man cheats on his wife he isn't a real man. Clearly doesn't deserve to be with a wife

Hes lying

Yes he just want an easy lay