If a man cheats on his wife?
And says he isn’t attracted to the other woman anymore, is he lying? Does attraction just disappear?
31-35, F
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SweetBee · 26-30, F
I just went through this and still healing from it. I asked my husband many times if he was still attracted to her and he kept saying no. I believed him. But as the months passed by (now it’s been 2 years) I see here and there that he looks her up. And I’ve asked many times if he’s not attracted to her then why he looks for her. So no, it doesn’t just disappear. Currently, I careless about him. I can’t stand him sometimes. He’s changed me completely and I hate him for that. Why am I still with him? We just had a bby. But eventually I’ll find my way out of this relationship. Sorry I ended up venting. But the same questions and thoughts you have, I had. (Just yesterday I seen his search history , and surely he looked her up on July,I was pregnant…lucky him I don’t love him like I used to. So it honestly didn’t hurt me, and also it didn’t surprised me). Some men are sick and selfish.
summerlove · 31-35, F
@SweetBee I’m on the other side. He never told me he was married though. He even gave me a different name. I fell in love with him but it was all lies. He ended up telling me he’s not attracted to me after I found out he was married. I don’t know if that is the truth or he was just pushing me away. I can’t describe how much he hurt me, the pain is indescribable.
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SweetBee · 26-30, F
@summerlove I know you love him, trust me I understand you. And it’s why I hated my husband . Because how is it that they can hurt you so much to the point that you feel like you’re dying , and we still love them. But eventually you’ll stop loving them. Like I said before, I stopped loving my husband, i see him and just have so much resentment for making me almost want to die. I can’t wait to feel free again.
summerlove · 31-35, F
@SweetBee I can’t wait for that feeling too. He broke me as a person. All the lies and betrayal. I don’t want to love him anymore. He said he told his wife and his family about the cheating but a part of me doesn’t believe him. I think I just need some type of closure. The last thing I said to him was how much I hate him through text and how much he hurt me and he didn’t reply to that so I just feel like I have no closure and I just feel sad.
@summerlove sometimes we get no closure. We need to learn to be okay with that . Maybe you have told yourself that that is all you need to feel better,only to postpone the hurt you will experience either way. Just let it happen. Closure or no closure. Let it happen ,that is all the closure you need.
