When we first started dating he wouldn’t hide his phone. When my bf and I first started dating...

FriendlyKate · 18-21, F

Honestly, I would prefer my phone and the other person's phone be private, but I never had a serious relationship yet, I don't like people fiddling with mine even if Its someone I really love, it's like reading a person's diary, just gives me the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it tbh 😐

Adogslife · 61-69, M

Why look at someone’s phone? It seems nosey and insecure. I don’t care what’s on my wife’s phone… that’s her business.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

Imo you lost the entitlement to his phone once you two broke up , if you're friends you gotta respect that boundary and let him have things in private. After all. You're only gonna be upset because I guarantee he's flirting with women as single, he even did as taken.

Getting back with him is like chasing that too small blouse you sent to good will only because you really liked it 5 years ago before you gained 15 pounds.

Aka: BAD idea.

Suggestmeone · M

I can say that I did the same thing and began hanging onto my phone, carrying it always. Got texts at night . All the hiding is obvious to others and eventually it blows up on you.
You were cheated on, it hurt bad enough to break from him. Why go back and go thru it again, especially when he does it still.

Northwest · M

If you're not together, why do you feel the need to go through his phone? You should move on, and by that I mean stop seeing him.

LittleLonely · 46-50

If you two get back together and straight away you’re worried about having access to his phone, shouldn’t that be a second go round red flag?

My love, he will give you access to that phone, but you will never have access to the new second secret phone.

His track record isn’t great, yet you are returning to him with doubts, insecurity and fear that make you want to have access to his phone.

Given the fact that he cheated, and he’s been blessed with your trust and the beauty of a second time with you, he should be treating you like a queen on his hands and knees, offering complete transparency before you even start to remember how much she hurt you and caused this PTSD. I

Also, I hope you learned from this experience that if he cheated, don’t be surprised if you never see his second or third phone.

ServantOfTheGoddess · 61-69, M

It isn't appropriate to expect a regular friend -- not someone you're dating -- to share all the secrets of his phone with you.

Carissimi · F

You are no longer his girlfriend, so no, you have no right to his phone.

OogieBoogie · F

Imo of you're not going out with him, it's really not your business (sorry if that sounds rude).

Personally, I wouldnt want one of my friends to pick up my phone and start looking through it.🤷

But then, that's just me .

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

Move on

SW-User

If you two are not together he doesn’t need to share anything with you.

And why are you friends with someone who cheated on you? You clearly have feelings for that person and they don’t have any for you, maybe pity. Stay out of it, It’s a perfect recipe for depression. Also watch some Shera Seven videos. Aside her silly gold digging talking, she has some very good advice for young women who have low self-esteem.

basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M

He cheated on me locked his phone wouldn’t let me go near it within 10 feet, and freaks out if I touch it.

So...why do you you want him back?
He's already broken your trust, what makes you think he won't do it again?

looking4thesun · M

Cheaters cheat and lie. It's what they do

NinaTina · 26-30, F

Id leave him alone and not even hang out with him. Kick him to the curb and find an ho man, who will treat you with respect