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When we first started dating he wouldn’t hide his phone.

When my bf and I first started dating we were open wouldn’t hide anything, would both use each others phones to play games or change music, knew the passwords and it was just open and nothing to hide. He cheated on me locked his phone wouldn’t let me go near it within 10 feet, and freaks out if I touch it. We broke up after he cheated but remained friends. What he did like trying to hide it from me and not just being honest with me still bothers me. We still hangout and see each other sometimes even though we’re not Dating. It bothers me that he hides his phone from me though as our relationship wasn’t based on hiding the phone, it was all open. Should I bring it up to him and ask him if we can be open with our phones? He’s mentioned he now feels like it’s an invasion of privacy. Should I just move on or see if he’s open to things being how they once were? How would I ask him about it or bring it up?
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FriendlyKate · 18-21, F
Honestly, I would prefer my phone and the other person's phone be private, but I never had a serious relationship yet, I don't like people fiddling with mine even if Its someone I really love, it's like reading a person's diary, just gives me the heebie-jeebies just thinking about it tbh 😐
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@FriendlyKate so what would you say to a guy who asks about your phone like changing a song?
FriendlyKate · 18-21, F
@Fifidog I would ask them what they wanted me to play lol
Fifidog · 26-30, F
@FriendlyKate lol oh okay. So in my case if I wanted to ask him about being open like he used to be how should I bring it up/say it? Should I mention how I feel closed off to him and if we ever got back together we’d need to be transparent with each other to feel connected again?
FriendlyKate · 18-21, F
@Fifidog I'm a Christian, so forgiveness is something I'm trying to master, with that being said my first initial thought is why would you get back with him, find a person that values you, for who you are, but in the meantime change yourself into the person who you would love to be lol