When we first started dating he wouldn’t hide his phone.

When my bf and I first started dating we were open wouldn’t hide anything, would both use each others phones to play games or change music, knew the passwords and it was just open and nothing to hide. He cheated on me locked his phone wouldn’t let me go near it within 10 feet, and freaks out if I touch it. We broke up after he cheated but remained friends. What he did like trying to hide it from me and not just being honest with me still bothers me. We still hangout and see each other sometimes even though we’re not Dating. It bothers me that he hides his phone from me though as our relationship wasn’t based on hiding the phone, it was all open. Should I bring it up to him and ask him if we can be open with our phones? He’s mentioned he now feels like it’s an invasion of privacy. Should I just move on or see if he’s open to things being how they once were? How would I ask him about it or bring it up?

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LittleLonely · 46-50

If you two get back together and straight away you’re worried about having access to his phone, shouldn’t that be a second go round red flag?

My love, he will give you access to that phone, but you will never have access to the new second secret phone.

His track record isn’t great, yet you are returning to him with doubts, insecurity and fear that make you want to have access to his phone.

Given the fact that he cheated, and he’s been blessed with your trust and the beauty of a second time with you, he should be treating you like a queen on his hands and knees, offering complete transparency before you even start to remember how much she hurt you and caused this PTSD. I

Also, I hope you learned from this experience that if he cheated, don’t be surprised if you never see his second or third phone.