Did I set myself up?

I told my friend to message my bf to see if he’d sext and flirt back with her to see if he’d be loyal to me or not. Well he ended up telling her that she’s beautiful and he wants to take her on a date and worship the ground she walks on. After this conversation with her my bf changed his phone passcode and told me he wants space and privacy when he was always open with his phone before. What should I do now? Did I set myself up for this or did I just open my eyes to who he truly is? He has no idea I’m on the other side of this.

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DunningKruger · 61-69, M

He should break up with you. You clearly have issues that are inimitable to a long-term relationship, trust issues being at the top of that list. And yes, he shouldn't be making plans to date other women if he's in a committed relationship. So, you're probably both better off to end things now.

Colemanchloe326

He cheated before that’s why I did it to see if he was still like that. So should I be breaking up with him or should he be breaking up with me? @DunningKruger

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

@Colemanchloe326 Either way, it doesn't look like either of you really want to be in this relationship.

idontknowwhattoputhere · 16-17, F

Don’t take him back, he’s a cheater

Colemanchloe326

What’s what I was thinking but there’s no one else I really connect with like him what should I do @idontknowwhattoputhere

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

Hey do you wanna go out on a date so I can worship the ground you walk on. Well, maybe not the worship part it seems a little over the top

Colemanchloe326

@DownTheStreet is this just who he is or did I set myself up? I feel like if it was another girl he would still have done this anyway

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

@Colemanchloe326 a bit of both. I’m not sure of your dynamics, how long your been dating, what he’s like, etc., what your friend is like. Btw what did your friend do about it?

Colemanchloe326

@DownTheStreet nothing she was just going along with it but does not want a relationship with him. She doesn’t even like him. We’ve been dating a while. He has sexted girls in the past and I told him I didn’t like it and he would tell me I’m not his mother and he can do what he wants, but if he’s incapable of staying loyal to me then that’s gonna cause me too much anxiety.

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Colemanchloe326

@allygator18 why should I be begging a cheater to take me back?

idontknowwhattoputhere · 16-17, F

@Colemanchloe326 don’t take him back

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