Am I insecure for not wanting a boyfriend who goes clubbing? The guy I recently broke up with...

Homie was cheating and talking to other women. He doesn’t respect you. Let him walk like a batter on ball 4 in baseball. Unless your feelings for Homie was strong I’m not sure why you would even entertain a conversation with him about getting back together. As far as wanting a SO that doesn’t go clubbing that’s your preference. Nothing wrong with that.

Spoiledbrat · F

If you're not comfortable with it then you're not but it's possible that he's being sincere.

Spoiledbrat · F

Maybe he's just not for you.

digitaldirtbag

Okay, so, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with guys and girls being friends. It is possible. It doesn’t mean they’re cheating. My husband has female friends and I have male ones and we only want to be with each other. That isn’t a reasonable belief to hold on its own - it’s antiquated.

That being said…

He’s going out clubbing with them. Dancing, drinking, drugs, wearing skimpy clothes in a place that’s pretty much entirely meant for hooking up with people. Not all clubs are, sure, but a good friggin deal are. So you’re right to be pissed. If you broke up because he cheated, then you have no reason to trust him especially when he’s not changing this particular behavior.

in10RjFox · M

Ask if he would be willing for an open relationship where you too can go clubbing and see other men and that he should not feel insecure..

Mamapolo2016 · F

No, you're not insecure. He wants it all his way - a girlfriend at home and freedom to play.

If that is okay with you, okay. But if it's not, cut him loose. (It's really a formality - he's already on the loose.)

HairbrushDiva · 31-35, F

My husband goes clubbing with me. We dance together. Why can't you have a relationship like that.

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Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M

I see a big red flag. If his intention is to get in touch with the rich guys or maybe games over there, then only, it is okay else he is a fraud.

TheMichiganNudist · 26-30, M

So guys and girls can be friends without banging one another, but personally, I found that if someone cheats once, they’re probably gonna cheat again. Take his words with a grain of salt, but I just wanted to point out that opposite sex can be friends without anything romantic/sexual happening

KA9ha · 31-35, M

i dont think so...if he goes clubbing ,,you need to know ihis intentions and his orientations too,,He could be looking for other women,,,he could also be hunting for males and getting GAY,,,,A bisexual or a crossdresser too.
or that getting dancing and getting drunk is his intention as against matrimonial life

ArtieKat · M

Definitely time to walk away and don't look back....

AliceinWonderland · F

no you aren't! trust your instincts.

originnone · 61-69, M

you mean....like....clubbing baby seals? Now that's sick! I wouldn't date hime either.

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looping · 22-25

nah, there's no point in going to a club if you arent looking for some ass

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