Am I insecure for not wanting a boyfriend who goes clubbing?

The guy I recently broke up with asked me if I want to be his girlfriend again. (We had broke up cause he was cheating and talking to other women) I said to him that I’m not looking for a boyfriend who goes out partying at clubs every weekend without me. It’s just not something I’m attracted to and those are just my standards. My girl friends who have boyfriends don’t experience their boyfriends going to clubs every weekend without them. My guy said he wants to date me again and go to clubs and that I should trust him cause relationships need trust and that he wants me to be okay with him having friends who are girls. (All the normal guys I know who are in relationships only have eyes for their woman. Why would a guy and girl need to be friends?) he told me I’m being insecure for not getting into a relationship with someone just cause they go clubbing every weekend. He hasn’t done anything to rebuild my trust in him so I don’t see why he would think I should trust him to go clubbing every weekend and have girl friends. Who here is being unreasonable?

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TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M

Homie was cheating and talking to other women. He doesn’t respect you. Let him walk like a batter on ball 4 in baseball. Unless your feelings for Homie was strong I’m not sure why you would even entertain a conversation with him about getting back together. As far as wanting a SO that doesn’t go clubbing that’s your preference. Nothing wrong with that.

Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M

@TheunderdogofNY Best possible Answer

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@TheunderdogofNY thank you for validating how I feel. I see it as a preference and not me being insecure. Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t going crazy haha

TheunderdogofNY · 36-40, M

@Fifidog you’re definitely not. It’s your preference and definitely a reasonable one.

Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M

@Fifidog It is another manipulation by telling the other person that they are insecure and hiding one's fault underneath the tag of being Insecure.

Walk out of it and you won't regret a bit.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Peterpaul17 do you think that’s a sign of a narcissist?

Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M

@Fifidog With the available information, No but still walk out and he will be back to you leaving everything even clubbing.

But then, don't accept him again because he would start doing that again.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Peterpaul17 he says he’s not ready to stop clubbing or partying anytime soon. I see what he’s done in the past when given freedom so why does he think I should give him freedom so he doesn’t feel like he’s in jail if we were in a relationship just so he can betray me again

Cinderella1day · 31-35, F

@TheunderdogofNY lol whaaaaaa lol wow