Am I insecure for not wanting a boyfriend who goes clubbing?

The guy I recently broke up with asked me if I want to be his girlfriend again. (We had broke up cause he was cheating and talking to other women) I said to him that I’m not looking for a boyfriend who goes out partying at clubs every weekend without me. It’s just not something I’m attracted to and those are just my standards. My girl friends who have boyfriends don’t experience their boyfriends going to clubs every weekend without them. My guy said he wants to date me again and go to clubs and that I should trust him cause relationships need trust and that he wants me to be okay with him having friends who are girls. (All the normal guys I know who are in relationships only have eyes for their woman. Why would a guy and girl need to be friends?) he told me I’m being insecure for not getting into a relationship with someone just cause they go clubbing every weekend. He hasn’t done anything to rebuild my trust in him so I don’t see why he would think I should trust him to go clubbing every weekend and have girl friends. Who here is being unreasonable?

digitaldirtbag

Okay, so, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with guys and girls being friends. It is possible. It doesn’t mean they’re cheating. My husband has female friends and I have male ones and we only want to be with each other. That isn’t a reasonable belief to hold on its own - it’s antiquated.

That being said…

He’s going out clubbing with them. Dancing, drinking, drugs, wearing skimpy clothes in a place that’s pretty much entirely meant for hooking up with people. Not all clubs are, sure, but a good friggin deal are. So you’re right to be pissed. If you broke up because he cheated, then you have no reason to trust him especially when he’s not changing this particular behavior.