@Fifidog yes

@Fifidog ahhh, I would say y’all could text or call each other on FaceTime.. I’m actually going to do the same when I do come across another guy. I would plan these dates maybe every other weekend if there is a connection. Don’t tell him about your past! My ex did this to me , he asked me about my past and did the same but worse! Actually get to know this guy, my ex told me at one point he had needs he needed to fulfill and if he didn’t get it from me he would get it from someone else! That’s why he rushed the whole relationship with me to fulfill needs and come to find out when I tried to leave from the abuse and the lack of boundaries he would abuse me , force me to stay with him. You already dealt with a narc , pay attention to your gut, if you’re asking questions , you’re second guessing those red flags girl! It happened to me twice back to back , I ignored and listened to all the lies!! I don’t know this guy but take YOUR time don’t rush behind him because he may have a need to be with a female. Your still learning to trust.

@Dreamland98 yes that’s exactly how I feel! You brought up so many great points. I’m sorry you had to experience that in the past too. I don’t trust yet but I’m not sure he understands that.

@Fifidog Just be honest. "This is moving really fast for me. I don't want to stop seeing you, so is there anyway we could come together and sort it out?" This should be a conversation you have in person, btw. Never discuss this kind of thing over the phone, otherwise it'll look like you're trying to dump him.

@GohantheThird that’s a great way to put it! Thanks so much!! What if he says I wanna see you every Sunday. He kind of expects it now he’s just like see you next weekend but I don’t want to have my weekends dedicated or reserved for him just yet as I’m still working on myself and need some me time sometimes. I also like to see him for an hour or so cause that’s what I have energy for. But he seems to want to spend hours (usually 3 or 4) together and do an activity and grab food and go for a walk and hangout and talk. I get that he likes me and wants to spend time for me but sometimes it feels like too much. My last relationship I got out of he did too little and wasn’t thoughtful at all so I appreciate how this one is showing me he likes me and makes me feel like he thinks of me but I’m just not ready to jump into a relationship so fast.

@Fifidog I think getting together and explaining both of your wants and needs will help you two move forward in the relationship. He probably was dating one or two girls before you who was higher maintenance than you, so he might just operate that way automatically.

@serendipitydoodah how do I know if he’s taking my feelings into consideration in the future? He’s really thoughtful but it’s just this that keeps happening

@Renkon I don’t know how I feel about him yet. I do like him and we do have a connection but I just don’t think I’m ready to be in another relationship yet since my last one. I enjoy my time with him but also feel as if he can be overwhelming or pushy with seeing each other which stresses me out even though I realize he’s doing this cause he likes me.

@Teslin he texts me every single day and asks me how my day was and if im available on ___ day. At this point I don’t even know if I should respond to the text or not

@Fifidog Yes, he is being pushy based on your wishes. Just be honest with him.

@Teslin what could I say to him without making things weird between us cause sometimes I go over the house to see his sister too. I told him I could see him becoming my bf in the future but I like to take things slow. But as I see how pushy he is it’s less attractive to me and I wanna put the brakes on a little

What can I say to him? I don’t want things to be awkward for me and his sister. I do wanna see him at times still as I enjoy his company but don’t want to take things further right now. @AthrillatheHunt

I like that idea I’ll try it haha @thatbuggerpaul