Guy is being too pushy for me and it’s STRESSING me out!

@Echambers101
Yes ofcourse! what could I say to him to be honest without making things weird between us cause sometimes I go over the house to see his sister too. In the past I had told him I could see him becoming my bf in the future but I like to take things slow. But as I see how pushy he is it’s less attractive to me and I wanna put the brakes on a little

@Fifidog you need to be straight forward, if you let it keep going he may get worse and it will get more awkward. Men like this get worst in future relationships so it’s best to be honest and if he reacts in a bad way then at least you know but a normal guy will get it and will take it much slower but he’s giving me a wierd vibe just because I dealt with men like this. You never see it in the beginning but these are the warning signs because no one has been upfront with him but it has to start somewhere or he will do it to someone else .

Just tell him he’s rushing , your very busy , your not used to jumping in relationships and you can let him know when you will see him.

@Dreamland98 in what way do they get worse? What can I say to him? Any ideas?

@Fifidog well a man who is rushing does not boundaries that’s why I said to tell him your busy and if you want pick a day you can see him and tell him your busy but you can see him when you can. It’s good to see the persons reaction . They get worse because they may feel you are creating excuses or you’re better than them. Basically he can turn it into an argument and May say things to upset you if he doesn’t back off a bit. This a guy guy who may rush the whole relationship, try to marry try to have kids fast and won’t respect your “boundaries” my ex did this to me and I’m stuck with a kid while he’s in jail because he was just like that, texting me everyday , wanted to see me all the time. You really gotta get to know him, take your time , have conversations on the phone , you don’t need to see him everytime , a date here and there is okay , once your comfortable and he is respecting your boundaries but pay attention, narcissists are good at hiding thier true selfs if he is one.. just the fact he has never been in a relationship is a red flag, especially if you have been in one

@Fifidog if its weird its werid as long as your honest and he understands

@Dreamland98 that’s a good way to put it thank you! I appreciate it.

@Fifidog welcome feel free to Dm if you want to talk or rant

@Dreamland98 my last bf was narcissistic so that’s why I’m so cautious. How do I get to know him more? By calling him or seeing him more often? How often would you say is good to see each other?

@Fifidog i know your not talking to me but when your schedule allows if your a busy person you could face time send gifts here and there it doesn't matter how you see each other it matters if and when you decide to see each other

@Echambers101 I just may take up your offer on that haha

@Echambers101 that’s a good idea! Maybe I could call him more often rather than seeing him more often so I don’t get overwhelmed!

@Fifidog yes

@Fifidog ahhh, I would say y’all could text or call each other on FaceTime.. I’m actually going to do the same when I do come across another guy. I would plan these dates maybe every other weekend if there is a connection. Don’t tell him about your past! My ex did this to me , he asked me about my past and did the same but worse! Actually get to know this guy, my ex told me at one point he had needs he needed to fulfill and if he didn’t get it from me he would get it from someone else! That’s why he rushed the whole relationship with me to fulfill needs and come to find out when I tried to leave from the abuse and the lack of boundaries he would abuse me , force me to stay with him. You already dealt with a narc , pay attention to your gut, if you’re asking questions , you’re second guessing those red flags girl! It happened to me twice back to back , I ignored and listened to all the lies!! I don’t know this guy but take YOUR time don’t rush behind him because he may have a need to be with a female. Your still learning to trust.

@Dreamland98 yes that’s exactly how I feel! You brought up so many great points. I’m sorry you had to experience that in the past too. I don’t trust yet but I’m not sure he understands that.