Guy is being too pushy for me and it’s STRESSING me out!

I’m going on dates with a guy (he is one of my girl friends brother). He tells me he never had a girlfriend before and he doesn’t know how this works so he’s ready to be in a relationship he told me. On the other hand I like him but I want to take things slow as I just got out of a bad relationship and am still healing and taking care of myself after that. I told him I want to take things slow but we were seeing each other once a week and now he told me he wants to see me more times throughout the week. I didn’t even wanna have the obligation of once a week let alone twice a week. I don’t know how to go about telling him he’s going way too fast for me right now and I feel as if he’s being pushy with making plans. I don’t want things to be awkward with my friend either seeing it’s her brother so how do I handle this?

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Renkon · 41-45, M

If it is his first time, it is understandable why he is overwhelmed by his feelings for you. For him happiness means you. And He is too inexperienced to keep his emotions in check.

That is not a red flag.

The truth is he wants to be with you every moment. That’s his state of mind.

Your case is different . You want to take it slow.

So the important question is how strong is your feeling for him? How much you want this relationship to work? Irrespective of your friendship with his sister.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@Renkon I don’t know how I feel about him yet. I do like him and we do have a connection but I just don’t think I’m ready to be in another relationship yet since my last one. I enjoy my time with him but also feel as if he can be overwhelming or pushy with seeing each other which stresses me out even though I realize he’s doing this cause he likes me.