Cell phones trigger relationship anxiety

What you're experiencing is normal. It's going to be rough for a while. Not only do you need time to heal and time to learn how to trust your current partner, you will start to believe this feeling will ruin your current relationship.

My advice, you should tell your current partner. Let them know that you are still healing and let your feelings out. Tell them it would be helpful if they understood your reason behind wanting to know what they were doing on their phone. Sit next to them... get sneak peeks of what they're doing to ease your mind.

If your current partner has a problem with this, they are not right for you and it will absolutely not work out.

My experience, it has been 4 years after being betrayed (in the same way that you have been betrayed)... I still get a queasy feeling every now and then, when my partner is on the phone and he is on his phone quite a bit for work. At thr beginning of the relationship, he was still talking to other women... and I only knew this because I'd wait for him to pass out drunk and go through his messages (super unhealthy...but I needed to ease my mind). It was nothing serious. I let it go for years and never mentioned it.

About a year goes by and I check again. He was still talking to one of them while I was at work one night (still nothing serious) and finally, after a while I said something to him and asked who she was (in a calm manner). He told me that they had been talking on and off for years and she was married. She was unhappy and would reach out to him to vent every now and then. He was pretty honest about it and I was honest about how it made me feel to know he had talked to her while I was at work. Kinda sketchy.

My trust was then regained because of how honest he was. He didn't even get mad that I knew about her (I had been going through his phone).

It's going to be a bumpy path... make sure that you have a partner that's willing to buckle up. My greatest love goes out to you. The feelings that come along after being betrayed are massively painful. ❤️

You need some time to heal. 3 months is not enough. It’s really messed up nowadays but you should come in a relationship with a clear mind, heart, and body. With relationships you have to take your time and get to know someone.especially more than ever before. Cheating has always existed but not on this level (social media/dating sites, apps that hide apps). Know him very well before sleeping with them.that really should be the very last step.

Right now, if you guys are together you have a lot of your self to seriously work on. Communication is key.

It’s definitely ptsd and trauma you need to work through. I’ve been in your situation before. Not trusting the person and thinking that they have something to hide. My advice is don’t date for a while. Learn to love and appreciate yourself again before you do. Maybe try some kind of therapy. Personally I hate phones and social media for this reason as well. But I’m trying to come to terms with not everyone is going to do these hurtful things. Its difficult though. But just know that you are not alone. Other people have felt the way that you do. Remember to be kind to yourself *hugs*

Two things

Firstly, have some respect for this new guy. Has he betrayed you? How can you soil his reputation by yourself and he never even told you anything? 🤷🏾‍♂️
That sounds inspired by fear and his image pays the price for an old cheater. I get that you're trying to be safe and protect yourself from what you fear but you dealt with that already. It isn't fair to this guy to be treated as guilty of something he never did. Don't chase this guy away cuz just imagine that he could be scared of you as if he had some nightmare cheater partner before you as well. Wouldn't you feel violated if he thought of you as something you never did?
This strobgly drives my first point of respecting him till he does something wicked to you. He is clean. Be kind to him.

Second, it is clear that you are in need of time. Time to process, accept, and heal from what occurred. It is painful and I am sorry you went through this. It could have gone better but you tried and he tried. Spend the time and space you need to recover. I want you to know you deserve the space you need. So take it without feeling rushed to fill the void left any previous commitment.

You did good. You did your best. Live strong. You tried. You'll have a brighter future on the way :)
And this will just be another fear to conquer and a memory to share to others so they may learn and you use it for good.

For all you know, this man might just have the phone in his hand that loves, cherishes, and honors you
Rest easy and remember to forgive yourself. 🤗

His blaming you for his action means you drop him and move on.

People still do relationships?

U shouldn’t have to convince yourself to trust people rather it should be easy. That’s the person for u. Talk about how and why u feel how you do. If they new person is considerate of ur feelings he will find a way to make u feel assured. Out of love n respect.

Being on the same sleep schedule or one that can be compromised is very important in a relationship.