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akindheart · 61-69, F
online relationships are a lot different than real ones because you are never inside their "real" world . you can get to know them but until you fit i the day to day you will never know.
Thereyouare · 61-69, M
@akindheart I'like the fact that we get to know each other from the inside out most times
We should learn it's more about what somebody's like on the inside than is on the outside.
but it is important as well you need to match here you can determine if you do or don't .
if you live close enough I' think a real relationship is very possible why not go for the golden ring
And for the ladies you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find that prince
We should learn it's more about what somebody's like on the inside than is on the outside.
but it is important as well you need to match here you can determine if you do or don't .
if you live close enough I' think a real relationship is very possible why not go for the golden ring
And for the ladies you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find that prince
Ilena · 31-35, F
@akindheart Yes I agree with that one. I actually complain in real life here when someone comes with allegations and stuff so I ask them lol do you live with them? No. So shut it. I think it's similar online.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Thereyouare With me you'd have to kiss the pitchfork and survive my dungeons to maybe be a valid candidate 🤣
ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
You can, but it takes effort. I tried it not even that long ago & quite honestly it meant a lot to me. But that's my first & last time ever trying anything long distance.
One thing someone told me is that people think online relationships aren't real. But they're very real when you put real emotions into it. You can't see each other in person so all you have is emotion & feelings to go off of. Communication. Those are all very valuable things in a relationship & we would fail without it.
The hard part is whether you can handle not being able to see or feel each other. You gotta be okay with pure emotion & most people honestly aren't
One thing someone told me is that people think online relationships aren't real. But they're very real when you put real emotions into it. You can't see each other in person so all you have is emotion & feelings to go off of. Communication. Those are all very valuable things in a relationship & we would fail without it.
The hard part is whether you can handle not being able to see or feel each other. You gotta be okay with pure emotion & most people honestly aren't
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ChiefJustWalks · 26-30
@Ilena true. After a heartbreak everyone tells you all you need is time. In the moment you don't care to hear it. Because what good does that do you when you can't feel it now.. but it's true

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@ChiefJustWalks Yet, all these things happen in real life relationships, too. I feel you are right, but they take much more work, in being vulnerable and being open, while many just digress to these things being not real. I've heard many stories, cared upon deeply within me, that rarely, I would hear some people ever express. I call that real. But you have to recognize the boundary, accept it, and take them in heart, in their words alone, as really that is all that is there. Which can be fiercely, more powerful than the charade, people put on in real life.
Driver2 · M
@ChiefJustWalks well said
Sequoia51 · 70-79, M
As REAL as it can be without TOUCH ...
A rare few have survived them, but nearly 10 times out of 10 , they're impossible....
It's like dead weeds at a deadend street.
It's like dead weeds at a deadend street.
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Ilena · 31-35, F
@MoonlightLullabyOld Yeah I agree. The rare part probably succeeded but a lot I know including myself failed even to uphold good friendships let alone a serious thing going 🤦♀️
I do believe it's quite possible but over a period of time, in that getting to know a person better would months though many these days seem very impatient in those regards, unfortunately.
Patience is one essential key to the door of one's heart I feel, which can turn out to be rewarding to both in the long run 😊. 🦉
Patience is one essential key to the door of one's heart I feel, which can turn out to be rewarding to both in the long run 😊. 🦉
Ilena · 31-35, F
@OldMan70 I've had experiences like that and they made me want to expire. No even a cam can't guarantee absolute honesty. I got shamed, cyberbullied and emotionally abused in ways that got me sick in life later. You never know what's in a person's mind and worse what they'll say. You are, fortunate.
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JacksonBlue · 36-40, M
Depends what youre looking for in a relationship.
I think its possible. But there are obvious hurdles.
I think its possible. But there are obvious hurdles.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@JacksonBlue More like liars and fools making up a fantasy world.
val70 · 51-55
Right, how does one define relationships? That's the initial question there then. Oh yes, one can fall in love on here like anywhere else. We're walking brains afterall. Yes, one can act as a parent on here too. There's enough compassion in each of us to actually give that a try. Nevertheless, after decades of experience on the internet it's my own personal opinion that there's first a minimun requirement too and that is to always try to be courteous
Ilena · 31-35, F
@val70 Common courtesy online has become lacking. I avoid a ton of social networks because there's no more ethics not respect and cyber bullying does not interest me. I got very strong opinions. It can unleash a ton of fire a lot of times.
I regret my behaviour and sought to modify it. Probably made me a colder and harder person but it's better that way. Theres also that question of what's true and not online. You could know what I look like but ultimately you only know what I tell you and those can easily be lies also.
I regret my behaviour and sought to modify it. Probably made me a colder and harder person but it's better that way. Theres also that question of what's true and not online. You could know what I look like but ultimately you only know what I tell you and those can easily be lies also.

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I don’t really know. I’ve had real feelings for people in the past, but distance matters.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User Distance will always matter. Well know I'm distant enough because he'll never return 😶
fun4us2b · M
No worse than anywhere else when you think about it...
Fluffybull · F
@fun4us2b Exactly. There are liars and fantasists in real life.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Fluffybull Some times I wonder if people are three dimensional or whatever. Too much over inflated delusion.
Ontheroad · M
I guess my thoughts are more "why not". If you have the mindset you can't, then yeah, you probably can't, but coming here for the express purpose of find your mate/significant other, then I'd guess you will 9/10 times be disappointed.
If you are open to life,one never knows what can happen...
If you are open to life,one never knows what can happen...
Ontheroad · M
@Ilena Finding a soulmate (if there is such a thing), is unlikely anywhere, even in your hometown, but 100% more unlikely if you just say nope, I'm not open to it. That is my point. That's my only point.
As to finding one online... yeah, that puts a whole other level of difficulty in the mix, but it does happen and if it happens for anyone, it can happen to you (meaning anyone online), but again, it can't if you are not open to it.
As to finding one online... yeah, that puts a whole other level of difficulty in the mix, but it does happen and if it happens for anyone, it can happen to you (meaning anyone online), but again, it can't if you are not open to it.
NiteRaven93 · 31-35, M
It is possible but the truth is that you and your immediate partner have to want it to work. You have to push through those leaps and bounds to get to where you need to go.
NiteRaven93 · 31-35, M
@Ilena Sometimes not. You can find someone if you truly want to look.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@NiteRaven93 Finding someone isnt key. Finding someone that blends with you is the whole point.
NiteRaven93 · 31-35, M
@Ilena Yes ma'am and I seek to find that one I can truly blend with
DHggmu · 31-35, M
Highly doubtful. I’ve had people say they’ve had feelings for me in the past, after chatting for a while, but I don’t see how anything other than friendship can be sustainable here.
DHggmu · 31-35, M
@Ilena Exactly. I can only say I consider one person here a “friend” and we even discussed if we can call ourselves friends just because we talk a lot when we’re both active here, because we both just disappear now and then. I’d like to make a friend or two here if it’s even possible, but lately I think maybe here isn’t the right place for that. So love? Maybe one in a blue moon can make it happen but other than that 😂
Miklee02 · 51-55, F
No!
Morrigan · F
A friendship i think so, but some kind of relationship where someone has feelings, that has to be tested with some reality.

SW-User
I think so
Ducky · 31-35, F
That depends on the person. There have been people who met through this site, had long distance relationships and ultimately closed the distance by meeting in person and are still together. Few as they may be, but even if there was just one example, it goes to show that it’s possible.

SW-User
No not a true one. The majority of people here are too comfortable with saying things just to say them. Any relationship built on lies is doomed from the beginning.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User Yeah and frankly online it's super easy to lie without it being too obvious. You won't always question things.
Carissimi · F
I’m sure it’s possible, just unlikely.
Similarname · 46-50, M
That “depends” — primarily on who’s involved and what they’re looking for/what their expectations are.
Similarname · 46-50, M
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Similarname Here
Similarname · 46-50, M
@Ilena
Ok. So you had a big crush on him, huh? How long did you know him on here?
Ok. So you had a big crush on him, huh? How long did you know him on here?

SW-User
It's possible but nobody would do it with honesty.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User Yeah. Or so I think also.

SW-User
I don’t see why not 🧐. What do I know 🤷♂️
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Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User Better than being lonely huh?
Some1somewhere · 36-40, M
I like to think it is possible
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Some1somewhere anything is but the results don't always seem favourable.
I believe there are genuine people here.
Where it goes from there depends on them.
Actually, there are only three genuine people here that I know of.
Maybe two and a half.
Definitely two.
For sure one person.
Where it goes from there depends on them.
Actually, there are only three genuine people here that I know of.
Maybe two and a half.
Definitely two.
For sure one person.
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Ilena · 31-35, F
@Ghostinthemachine You're in luck. Hopefully you're right about them. I tend not to believe too much anymore.
@Ilena probably for the best
Temporallube · M
I think you could but it depends. It’s about how much someone would want to invest in the other person.
I think I met a lot of nice people on here. But I’ve never taken it beyond just having fun and laughing.
I still think it’s very possible to have a real relationship with people on here.
I think I met a lot of nice people on here. But I’ve never taken it beyond just having fun and laughing.
I still think it’s very possible to have a real relationship with people on here.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Temporallube Yeah. I mostly think you shouldnt take it too seriously in general unless you know it could really benefit you but rarely.
littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M
I am not sure about long distance relationship on the internet. However I can be a good friend for online people. 😅
Ilena · 31-35, F
@littlepuppywantanewlife So you consider here as your real friends?
littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M
@Ilena I care about nice and genuine people. I love interacting and making smart conversations. Majorly I can open about how I feel without being judged.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@littlepuppywantanewlife Thats good. Hopefully you'll always get rewarded. I've been deluded greatly. Well beyond repair. I just don't care.
SarithBorn · 22-25, M
Define real? 🤔
SarithBorn · 22-25, M
@Ilena I guess if you find the right person and they are miles away from you, are left with two options either accept you wont be with each other. or take a risk on a long distance relationship 🤔
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SarithBorn I'm not even going to talk about that one. Best option is not to start anything at all. You can't really know someone miles away either way.
SarithBorn · 22-25, M
@Ilena True. 🤔
BiasForAction · M
I say no
Ilena · 31-35, F
@BiasForAction same
Whyme · 46-50, M
Ild guess depends on your definition of real
MasterLee · 56-60, M
No
Funlov · M
No
Funlov · M
I think because we’re also far apart like I’m in Canada most you guys are in US or Europe, so I think it’s so hard
Funlov · M
I think there is a very small chance but yes but very small
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
Ben here since the site opened, and I have not had one as of yet.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@Ilena I just move with the flow expecting nothing.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@WillaKissing Probably for the best.
WillaKissing · 56-60, M
@Ilena Absolutely the best way.
BrewCityBarfly · M
Some people I know have. It just didn't make sense to me for 2 people to be involved online with zero chance of ever meeting IRL.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@BrewCityBarfly Online to me nothing makes sense. Just an outlet to escape lifes stress thinking you'll find better ...or whatever.
Japrost · 41-45, M
I doubt it you can catch a catfish tho

SW-User
I just can’t let anyone here know my real identity. I rather not do it stays anonymous.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User I'd honestly stay that way. Though I put up my pfp and some say I'm a kittyfishy lately I'm not sharing much of myself.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
Yes.
There's a few couples who met on EP and here that ended up together
There's a few couples who met on EP and here that ended up together
Ilena · 31-35, F
@rrraksamam why keep on talking about EP though? It's past and gone. RIP.
fenomen02 · 46-50, M
please define what you mean with "real relationship"...
It takes a lot of searching between catfish, people with only one interest and those not interested in a relationship, but there are some users who show a much completer and more real version of themselves here than you'll find at any dating site or in any bar. So yes, I think SW is a great website to get to know people at a deep level. Only downside is that is unlikely to find anyone remotely local, especially for those outside the USA.
BizSuitStacy · M
Friendships...yes. I suppose that could lead to something more.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@BizSuitStacy .... because we are human....
Lostlostlost · 51-55, M
I do hope so
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Lostlostlost · 51-55, M
@Ilena well I think you are beautiful, if that helps any
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Lostlostlost Beautifully broken I guess. Its stronger than me 😖

SW-User
Please stop telling people we're dating, it's embarrassing.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User you're making sordid allegations 👀🤣
Degbeme · 70-79, M
Not while I`m still in the dungeon!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤨
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
Not really.
Hard to do that even IRL, much less here.
Hard to do that even IRL, much less here.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@GeistInTheMachine I can't call a relationship a relationship if it's not physical.

SW-User
More like acquaintances
Ilena · 31-35, F
@SW-User The way I see it too.
No thats not possible
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Bodymindsoul that's how I see it today.
@Ilena socail media is just that media relationships need tanglable proof to exist
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As real as you want them to be
Ilena · 31-35, F
@Quoththeraven come on peasant I bet you won't last a second xD
GeistInTheMachine · 31-35, M
But look, I had a 5 year relationship with a woman on EP a long time ago, so maybe I am just jaded because of recent relationships.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@GeistInTheMachine EP is RIP
greenknight · M
if you like talking to AI robots.
Ilena · 31-35, F
@greenknight I'm not a robot yet thank you. I am a Vampire tho 😌🦇
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