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What did an ex-partner say or do that made you stop loving them?

For me, it's the realization that he will never change. Lies after lies.

He wanted to hurt me, he was smart and studied me, he knew exactly how to manipulate my heart because I loved him so much.

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TjNewton · M

@BrokenAbyss You haven't got any lubricant ?

BrokenAbyss

@TjNewton I got the lube, the whip, cuffs, mask, gag, straps and toys. Are we making up again?

TjNewton · M

@BrokenAbyss We are now 😂😂😂

PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

He revealed that the person he referred to as his ex-girlfriend was in fact his current girlfriend. His fiancé actually. And naturally he didn’t share that truth until he had gotten what he wanted from me. I’ll admit that it took a long time to fall out of love with him even after experiencing that kind of hurt. Still have love for the moron actually because he was sort of a big chapter in my life. But I hold onto the lessons way more than the innate care I have for him.

Bexsy

Made me feel like I didn't matter. Like I never mattered. Seemed to bring him joy. He also had anger issues. Which made me just withdraw more until I just stopped caring

SW-User

When I was young I had a partner I dated who was too old for me to begin with(I was 16, he was 23, dated for 2 years) after doing stuff to me I didn't consent to he texted me the next morning to let me know I was "pretty ugly". I was torn.

Other times I've gotten involved with drug abusers. They're hard to want to be with long term.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@SW-User Addicts overall are hard to deal with. You can never change them.

SW-User

@Menetics Yeah and then they make excuses or refuse help so it makes it harder esp when you just want to see them get better. For some reason I attract those types.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@SW-User Surround yourself with people who are healthy for you. We sometimes think we can save them but most of the time they’ll just ruin us and waste our time. If someone truly loves you, they’ll change their bad habits for you.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

Basically my ex just wasn't that into me to begin with. He talked a good game tho.

HootyTheNightOwl

Soon to be ex... "I don't trust you with other men". Ten years into a faithful marriage. I didn't have any friends of my own and never went out by myself, so there was no basis for that nonsense.

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Fairydust · F

@HootyTheNightOwl yeah I understand, it’s hard to figure them out sometimes.
narcissists do self project guilt. Blame you, blame anyone for their bad behaviour but them.

Vivaci

You’re right…it’s his guilt. @Fairydust

Fairydust · F

@Vivaci yeah I think so I had many years experience with it, learnt a lot about their behaviours.

SW-User

Made me feel cheap and replaceable

Vivaci

@SW-User I know exactly how this feels. Hugssss…Such losers only need a vagina…it doesn’t matter whom it’s attached to.

eMortal · M

Let say, her true personality showed few months into the relationship. I didn’t like it. I must agree I changed the way looked at her. She noticed. We agreed part ways.

Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F

I don't really think I stopped loving as much as I gave up, but something about owing me an explanation.

PepsiColaP

They would neglect me and/or rage at me and so eventually I grew indifferent to them

Vivaci

Refusing to leave his bad habits/addiction and cheating behind my back.

Fairydust · F

Same, lies, cheating and verbal abuse.

I stayed way too long.

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Menetics · 26-30, F

@BluntSm0ker what about it?

Iwillwait · M

The choice is not always from a single statement. However, the choice to not share space and time with them was from a culmination of words and actions.

Montanaman · M

Not me, but my son's ex. 🙄😔🤷‍♀️
Left him and their children for sex. Wtf?
Still love her, but hate her just as much. 🙅‍♀️

Menetics · 26-30, F

@Montanaman I don’t like people who would choose someone or something over their family. Where is she now?

Montanaman · M

@Menetics living in a city an hour away with her "Polly Amourous" couple. Orgasms over family and Love. Wtf?🙄🤷‍♀️🙅‍♀️ Good riddance.

VeronicaJane

Cheated behind my back. What you do know, won't hurt you. maybe, but it's a *itch when you do find out.... 🙄

AstroZombie · 36-40, M

I stopped loving her after she admitted she'd been leading me on for the whole time we were together. She was using me to move out of her parents under the guise of being in a relationship with me. Told people she was single but told me she loved me. Cheated on me with the guy who introduced us. And then left me for him.

SlippingAway

They made it clear they didn't love me

Gotallota · 36-40, M

All kinds of narcissistic things that left me stoned and doubting what was really the truth .. oh yea they cheated with a few of my friends lol

Menetics · 26-30, F

@Gotallota Are you still friends with them?

Gotallota · 36-40, M

@Menetics no not that one but most all of my ex s I am

SW-User

was cheating

DaughteroftheMoon · 26-30, F

They started to show signs of selfishness, many times they were caught in a lie, they showed cowardice a few times.

Barny52 · 56-60, M

It was the day she didn’t talk all day because I was 15mins late picking her mum up to take her on a day our that finished me off

Neoerectus · M

People rarely change appreciably. Avoid "fixing" people as any relationship goal. You will be happier.

SW-User

He took me for granted and treated me like I don't matter to him. And I also found out he had another woman.

kaykay22 · 31-35, F

Emotional abuse ! I was younger then though but made me see people differently!

sarabi · F

So many things lol. My standards were so low then.

Reject · 26-30, M

I never stopped loving any of them.

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Reject · 26-30, M

@Menetics I do. If I ever saw any of them again, it would be as if a day hasn’t passed.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@Reject I don't think I can love someone the same way after they disrespected me.

Reject · 26-30, M

@Menetics That’s understandable. Everyone needs to be respected. I suppose I don’t need their respect though because I respect myself.

Morvoren · F

After all we’ve been through together, I don’t think it’s going to happen.

Torsten · 36-40, M

not what she said but what she did.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@Torsten What did she do?

Torsten · 36-40, M

@Menetics took my son from me

BeefySenpie · M

Stop caring

Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F

@BeefySenpie I am sorry. I can understand this well.

Menetics · 26-30, F

@BeefySenpie I know but there are moments that I still think about him. Buffy Beefy.

BeefySenpie · M

@Menetics You wouldn’t be human if you never thought of him…but it’ll get easier

Nunlover

Finger in the arse without warning

SW-User

A lot of us women feel that way

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

Well if that happened then she wouldn't be my significant other 😅

Menetics · 26-30, F

@ChiefJustWalks You’re right. I’ll change that right now.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Menetics oh my dumbass was over here thinking you were currently in a loveless relationship 😅 I was like aw 🥹

Well lemme re-answer then 😅 with the last person I loved, I fell out of it after it was already over. I had to realize that we simply weren't right for each other & I still had a lot of growing up to do

SkeetSkeet · 100+, F

It was the silence

exchrist · 31-35

Not possible she knows that

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

So sorry to know about that.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Being treated like I am nothing, that I can’t do anything right, the mind games and the verbal abuse, it’s just too much

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

She said, months into trying everything I could, after the most lovingly heartfelt letter I ever wrote another human being: "I have told you several times that I'm done and want out. I hope that this time you hear me."