No Labels: Does it matter?

I've been talking to this incredible girl. She is just great and I would say I found the one. We talk everyday, we obviously like each other, we say I love you's and we normally do things like couples do. The only difference is that we're not in a relationship or we don't label it like we are dating.

But am I risking anything here? Do you think it's best that we'll stay like this? Or should I just ignore and play along?

This is pretty weird for me but I want her..I want her to be mine...

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Communication is key. It can be a difficult thing to bring up, but maybe just ask her what she wants for the future and see what lines up.

Optima12 · F

@ViciDraco I did. She is not ready and I was ok to wait. I'm just scared now that she's getting used to our setup which is fine for her and it might end up hurting us both.

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

@Optima12 well, I suppose you have two options.

1) You realize you need someone to make a commitment and if they are unable to do that, it is probably best for you to move on to make room for someone who can.

2) You accept that this may end some day. Even many committed relationships end, so the label really doesn't mean much. Despite that realization, you can decide to enjoy what you have now for as long as it lasts. It may end tomorrow or it could last years or decades.

I suppose another big question is what your actual fear is? That it will be harder to move on later than it will be now?

Optima12 · F

@ViciDraco Nah, moving on can be really hard but that's not what I'm afraid. I'm scared that with what we have, she gets comfortable with it and will decide to stay like this forever. I am trying to avoid any discussions that would make her feel like I'm asking her to commit as it makes her uncomfortable or pressure her. Main problem is when should be the right time to ask her?

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

@Optima12 what element of the current situation would be bad to last forever? Are you needing to reach marriage or are you worried about nonexclusivity?

Optima12 · F

@ViciDraco the exclusivity