Someone I recently started dating flew home to be with their family

And their grandma died. I obviously believe them but I barely hear from them anymore, which is understandable since that's a huge thing to happen. But like, do I sit and wait for her? Or just move on? I'm really interested in her and really want something to happen, but I can't force it. I texted her to check in 3 days ago and she responded favorably but that she's been busy and spending much more time with her family.

We were texting kinda regularly after she went home but it dried up almost completely after she lost her grandma. It's been a week since then. And we matched on a dating app a month ago.

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PrettyFlamingos · F Best Comment

Her Grandma died just one week ago? I think you are lucky she has made time to text you, families need to pull together in times like that. If you really like and care for her, you’ll give her a little space and time

somedude15 · 26-30, M

@PrettyFlamingos yeah that's exactly what I thought, thanks. I was just kind of apprehensive because we've only been talking for a month

PrettyFlamingos · F

@somedude15 It’s only natural, I hope you find reassurance very soon and your girl keeps in touch. You seem a great guy and ty for Best Comment 🦩😊

updown2020 · 61-69, M

@somedude15 If it is meant to be it will work out. remember she home and has many thing and people to deal with so be patent . Maybe send her a text saying something like " Hi hope things are okay I was just thinking of you and if you need to talk I am here" .

LadyGrace · 70-79

And you can't wait till she gets home, already? Surely she must be grieving and trying to sort things out and probably help family figure out what to do with her belongings and such and then the funeral. Do not prejudge her. Give her time to grieve and adjust to things. Wait till she gets home and then see how she acts. But at the same time, understand she's going through a lot and may need her space more than usual until she can come to grips with what has happened. She was probably very close to her grandma and that is an awfully devastating blow when you lose someone that close.

SW-User

idc who dies, it takes just 30 seconds to text someone, let them keep that lukewarm energy to themselves, you deserve better

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Give her some time.

Flowerz · 36-40, F

I would find that kinda strange but I am not super close with family. It sounds like from other replies that it is normal. Good luck either way. :)

somedude15 · 26-30, M

@Flowerz yeah I wasn't close with my grandparents either, not even close to my dad. So I feel you too. But I don't know enough about her and how close she is to her family- and so I just want to assume that she's being honest and really just needs time. Mentally I'm preparing myself to move on though. Dating is hard lol.

HootyTheNightOwl

Don't be a douche bag and dump her now... she needs someone to sit quietly with her while she grieves.

Some people turn to their surviving family for support... others are like me and turn to their partner for support - there's no one size fits all when it comes to grief.

I'm just glad that my man was there to help me though it at the time I needed him.

smiler2012 · 56-60

well why do you not contact or text her to see how she is doing .it may give you an incite into her future intentions with the way the conversation goes and her attitude [somedude15]

somedude15 · 26-30, M

@smiler2012 I did that last week Thursday... She replied, but then also said she needs a while to just be with her family. I haven't texted her since.

smiler2012 · 56-60

@somedude15 well alright you can understand that and really she is asking you too give her some space so the family have time to grieve to together

Bang5luts · M

Patience will prove to reward you in this troubling time for her and her family. I text every day saying I hope you are doing alright you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. It will mean a lot to her

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