Serious Question with disclaimer (Sorry necessary here)

This is not a flippant comment, but why would you want to be anything but yourself. The biggest mistake people make, is try to transform themselves into something they think the other person might like.

That's a recipe for disaster.

The same goes for those who think they mold someone to fit what they're looking for.

Just be yourself, if you're looking for a long term relationship.

Classy. Feminine. Broadly similar outlook, capable of arguing calmly and rationally when we disagree. Some similar tastes and interests, but also some different ones. One of the most important things in a relationship, in my opinion, is that both parties should be happy that their partner has some time to him/herself and pursues interests which don’t involve the other. Accordingly, the most unattractive traits would be jealousy and clinginess. Hope that helps.

When I was looking for a sister-in-law for one of my brothers, the notion was to get to reach an all rounder who is well grounded, who is educated, yet not boastful and actually humble to let others less educated put forth their point of view, who could bind a family with her affectionate ways and keep my brother her foremost priority.

Everyone will have a different answer obviously. It depends on what they want from the relationship. One of the main things I find attractive is passion; for a specific cause, a hobby, an interest, whatever. I think it's so fun to be able to talk to someone about these things and see how they light up and get excited about discussing them. Kindness towards people and other living things is also a very important trait to me. If someone is passionate, kind, and has a compatible sense of humor to mine, I don't really care about much else. Traits I find repulsive should be pretty obvious. Unnecessary meanness, cruelty. Things like that

Ultimately tho, regardless of men's opinions, you should just be yourself. You shouldn't adhere to what a man wants to be considered a keeper. Just find a man who likes you as you are

Smart, intelligent, sweet, caring, classy, good humor, kind and modest. Those are good qualities.

Poor attitude, slvtty behavior, overinflated sense of importance and an ego the size of planet Mars - bad qualities.

A sharp mind highlighted by a sharper sense of humor. Soft gentle kind. Feminine but not overly girly. The humor thing though. If you can laugh with someone everything else is really mute.

Things I don’t like? Passive aggressive comments. Expected to be a mind reader. Easily offered. Overly concerned with trivial things. IE “what will the neighbors think!?”

That’s about it in a nutshell Even all this can be overlooked with a great sense of humor

Strong. Not needy or confused about who she is. Honest. Good sense of humor, fun loving. Not afraid to try new things. Comfortable with her sexual persona. Not afraid to risk.

They say opposites attract but I disagree......
I want a woman just as tacky as me.
Not too classy.
Sassy can be kind of nice.
She has to be into playing music of some sort. Preferably a singer to accompany me with my guitar.
She can't smoke drink or do drugs.
But I think the most important thing that I need from a woman is she has to be good with kids.
Not just not screaming and hollering or hitting them. But she has to actually like being around them and help nurturing them and guide them in the right direction.
I could overlook a lot of stuff for a woman who is good with kids.

When I was dating, I definitely was drawn to sweet more than sassy. (Or, to take the classic internet comparison, Mary Ann rather than Ginger!).

I married someone who attracted me because she was kind, a deep thinker, a person of religious faith, someone I could have freely roaming conversations with about just about anything, had a sense of humor, liked MY sense of humor!, valued education, and liked to do fun things that would make us laugh.

I like smart, clever, funny and assertive women who have their own agendas irrelevant of mine.

I don't like women who think that they can decide what is best for me...I can do that myself thank you. Don't get me wrong I can discuss and reason through things, so anyone who is out to just boss me around...it's not a good fit. Those people should just get a dog.

Someone who is happy and content with how they are..

Are there any reasons why your not asking him ?
Or an Ex , male friend maybe?

Attraction is an individual preference. Making the guys above ideal candidates to ask.

I did the same and interestingly although non of the men knew of wach other. They each responded with the same answer definitely insightful 🎊

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I like a mix of sassy and sweet, a girl who doesn't mind occasionally getting her hands dirty is a plus. Sense of humor is very important. Hopefully, we're compatible politically and faith-wise, too, but that's not as important to me.

Unattractive traits: tactlessness, no impulse control, no filter, financially irresponsible, bad/poor communication, head games.

For me it’s not an exclusive either or thing with personality types. It’s more about the big picture of how compatible we are as individuals (sexually, romantically, and as friends) and how much I like her as a person in general. As far as long term relationships are concerned. I wouldn’t stick around in a relationship with someone I didn’t like or who didn’t really like me.