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OogieBoogie · F
Its empowering ....to a point.
Its akin to 'going numb'....its blissful.... in the beginning.
- a well needed seclusion of peace and simplification.
Its definitely a step in a process that must be gone thru.
But having come out the other side, as much as a hermit that i am, i realsied that we are social creatures....however unfortunate 😏
And that definition is definitely on a spectrum.
- Some people recharge by being social
- Some people recharge by being alone
....but either way, connection to people in some degree is essential.
If only for perspective and reflection on ones self🤷♀
Its akin to 'going numb'....its blissful.... in the beginning.
- a well needed seclusion of peace and simplification.
Its definitely a step in a process that must be gone thru.
But having come out the other side, as much as a hermit that i am, i realsied that we are social creatures....however unfortunate 😏
And that definition is definitely on a spectrum.
- Some people recharge by being social
- Some people recharge by being alone
....but either way, connection to people in some degree is essential.
If only for perspective and reflection on ones self🤷♀
ScreamingFox · 41-45, F
@OogieBoogie drop that mic beautiful
I’m glad you found your happy medium. @OogieBoogie
OogieBoogie · F
@soulrespite im still finding it.
My perspective of 'people' has gone thru great change.
In all honest truth....i love my own company.
The shitty thing is.... I'm my own worst enemy🫤
So.....ive kinda reluctantly conceded that i need people to stop me from drawing into myself too much..... hopefully 🙏
People are my distraction, my mirror , my challenge to myself.
And honestly, altho they can be disappointing.... they can also surprise you and make you laugh. Make you grow.
But the alone part.... what you're doing rn....is REALLY important.
Its absolutely ESSENTIAL.
It forces you to stop. To assess, reset, find a base line, be at some kind of peace with all that you are.... and are not.
And you cant do that when your 'self' is being bumped around and redirected by other people.
My perspective of 'people' has gone thru great change.
In all honest truth....i love my own company.
The shitty thing is.... I'm my own worst enemy🫤
So.....ive kinda reluctantly conceded that i need people to stop me from drawing into myself too much..... hopefully 🙏
People are my distraction, my mirror , my challenge to myself.
And honestly, altho they can be disappointing.... they can also surprise you and make you laugh. Make you grow.
But the alone part.... what you're doing rn....is REALLY important.
Its absolutely ESSENTIAL.
It forces you to stop. To assess, reset, find a base line, be at some kind of peace with all that you are.... and are not.
And you cant do that when your 'self' is being bumped around and redirected by other people.
I appreciate your insight. I’m just learning and getting more selective. I don’t dismiss connection. Not sure where you’re gathering that. @OogieBoogie
OogieBoogie · F
@soulrespite oh...i assumed you weren't missing people.
I get that.
My idea of a good time is knowing I'm in my space, no one is coming to visit, and i have all this time to do whatever i want .
I assumed you've reached the point where you see being alone isn't loneliness....its solitide.
I get that.
My idea of a good time is knowing I'm in my space, no one is coming to visit, and i have all this time to do whatever i want .
I assumed you've reached the point where you see being alone isn't loneliness....its solitide.
I have always loved my own company and solitude.. To the point where it bothers ppl irl.
You seemed to be talking about how important connection and socializing is though? Or how you have changed your perspective on people and interactions over the years.
I am getting more selective of the company I keep and how available I am to people. I rather not be available, I have myself and my son to worry about. I know my limits and trust myself to hold my boundaries and my word. @OogieBoogie
You seemed to be talking about how important connection and socializing is though? Or how you have changed your perspective on people and interactions over the years.
I am getting more selective of the company I keep and how available I am to people. I rather not be available, I have myself and my son to worry about. I know my limits and trust myself to hold my boundaries and my word. @OogieBoogie
OogieBoogie · F
@soulrespite That's really a good place to get to.
And yeah, i was. But it was more alluding to balance.
And balance is personal to ourselves, and even where we are at, and what we require, or have the energy for.
And yeah, i was. But it was more alluding to balance.
And balance is personal to ourselves, and even where we are at, and what we require, or have the energy for.