Just a thought
My dad and I didn’t always get along. He was sort of rude, and I was sort of rude, but in my eyes he just fell short of my hero, who was my grandpa. That wasn’t fair to him, but I was a kid. I wasn’t able to see that people could have flaws.
There’s a comedian who does a bit about him and his brothers all eventually fighting their dad. Eventually, that comedian’s sons got to an age where they wanted to fight him, so he turned to his dad for advice. His dad told him, “Your sons want to win, but you have to win, or the whole dynamic will change. They won’t see you the same way.”
Maybe it’s not so rare for sons to eventually fight their fathers at some point, and it happened with me too when I was 16. I won, and things did change after that. I was still a punk, and he never tried to fight me again.
Time goes on, and I get older and wiser and see where I was wrong a lot of the time. I can’t go back and have those conversations he passed away in 2018 but our relationship did improve. I don’t think he was ever really proud of me until after I joined the Air Force, but when he passed, it was still the hardest hurt I had to deal with at that time.
There’s a comedian who does a bit about him and his brothers all eventually fighting their dad. Eventually, that comedian’s sons got to an age where they wanted to fight him, so he turned to his dad for advice. His dad told him, “Your sons want to win, but you have to win, or the whole dynamic will change. They won’t see you the same way.”
Maybe it’s not so rare for sons to eventually fight their fathers at some point, and it happened with me too when I was 16. I won, and things did change after that. I was still a punk, and he never tried to fight me again.
Time goes on, and I get older and wiser and see where I was wrong a lot of the time. I can’t go back and have those conversations he passed away in 2018 but our relationship did improve. I don’t think he was ever really proud of me until after I joined the Air Force, but when he passed, it was still the hardest hurt I had to deal with at that time.
