"The Coffee Cabinet"-Creatures Of Habit

I have reached that dreaded age where I am getting stubborn about silly things. My mom and I are reorganizing the cabinets and for 30+ years this one cabinet has always been the coffee cabinet. Filters, powered creamer, what have you. The coffee pot is no longer under it on the counter, it's in another place and yet, I can't bring myself to put anything in this cabinet BUT coffee, tea, etc. It's stupid, esp since the Keurig is on the opposite end of the kitchen..
I said on a post earlier that we are creatures of habit. We love familiar things. Familiar things feels safe and are scented with nostalgia. I remember being young and watching my parents play cards, and the waft of hot coffee as I fed my baby his morning jar of bananas.
I imagine even after my mom is gone that is where the coffee and tea will remain until family members change it when I am gone.
My random share for today.:)

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Carissimi · F

I often think that in many instances “familiarity” is equal or stronger than “love.” The longer one is familiar with something, the more value we place on it. That’s why so many couples stay together after the love has gone. Familiarity means “the known” its certainty, safety, security, within our comfort zone, and stability, even when what is familiar is not actually good for us.

The strength of familiarity becomes stronger the older we get, and the less we like change. It’s Just human nature, although animals hate change more than we do.

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Carissimi Thank you. I really like what you said and it's true . Familiarity is an unusual beast in some circumstances, when we make decisions for what feels safe. At others times it's a pleasant security. Great share!

Carissimi · F

Thank you.

I still miss a person who was not kind to me. It’s because I had a very long shared history, like almost 30-years, but we had so many experiences together that no one else could understand or talk about with me, other than him. I think that’s why couples stay together for life, even when miserable because there is no one else in the world who can understand those life experiences like the one who went through them with you. That’s just relationships. Familiarity binds us to all aspects of life, even coffee cupboards. And there is nothing wrong with that. 🤗@ravenwind43

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Carissimi I get that. I think now of facing the rest of my life in the midst of my long term separation. I can't go back because he made me miserable and yet imagining the next 25+ years alone is daunting.

Carissimi · F

Growing old alone was one of my greatest fears, and here I am doing just that. It’s not easy. @ravenwind43

ravenwind43 · 51-55, F

@Carissimi maybe the universe needed you to experience your worst fear before you would be willing to change it. I'm sorry that it is difficult.

Carissimi · F

There are far worse things than growing old alone, but the loneliness is painful. I’ve been lonely my whole life. I’m not changing anything. I’m too tired. @ravenwind43