I Have Random Thoughts

I'm needing to vent and I'm probably wrong... but this bothers me.

My stepdad has TWO daughters. Me and my sister. Yet every Christmas it is my job to take him Christmas shopping so he can spend upwards of $350.00 for my sister and gets me nothing.

Last year my sister got me a $20.00 Snoopy and put our Dad's name on it so it was from them both.

Meanwhile, he buys her expensive items.

My sister just called me to make sure I again take Dad out to buy her gifts. She made it be known that I'm in charge of making sure he spends money on high quality items and not garbage... yes, she did say that. I had to give her my email so she can email me a detailed list of what she wants.

I wish it didn't hurt that I get singled out as being a ''non-daughter'' while he feels exceptional for spoiling my sister.

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BlueRain · F

Is you sister biologically his child? It still doesn’t make it right.

realrare · 51-55, F

@BlueRain No, she's a stepdaughter just like me.

BlueRain · F

Oh. This makes no sense. It’s not fair. Don’t go shopping anymore.

realrare · 51-55, F

@BlueRain Oh, I'll go. I don't even think it's bad that he do extra for her. She lives with him so she cooks and cleans so he feels he ought to do more... although it's more her demanding it if you ask me. But I'm a daughter too and it is just weird to not get anything from him when my sis is opening present after present. Last year she added a stocking to the mix so now I get to be responsible for her having a wonderful stocking... meanwhile my husband and I are down to one income since his cancer and cannot afford presents for one another... but eh, as long as sis is happy. :/

BlueRain · F

I’m so sorry. Did you ever think of talking to him or your mom?

I’m really sorry about your husband’s cancer.

realrare · 51-55, F

@BlueRain This didn't happen until my Mom died two years ago. I don't really care about the presents, but there have been a few times where even my husband has said to my Dad, ''You know you have two daughters, right?''... so it's obvious to everyone but him. My sister even has the audacity to act like his doting on her is obnoxious, meanwhile she demands her gifts be of high quality. I said something to her last year, so I'll see if anything changes this year. It just hurts being treated like I'm not family.

BlueRain · F

I don’t blame you for feeling that way. My birthday just passed so for years I got one gift at Christmas and they said, this is your birthday and Christmas gift.

DominoSuo · M

here is what I would do.
Send home your efin list and tell he and she you will gladly get both lists filled. Is it cash or credit.
Seriously. Shot across the bow
No money no pres no problem.

DominoSuo · M

@BlueRain that is such a cop out. What the fuck is wrong with Dads?
When did they stop being men? Maybe I’m
Old school. I’m 58 and dads don’t treat there kids like that. Biological or not. They are still your kids. Mine will be my punky and big dog no matter their age.

realrare · 51-55, F

I feel the same about my boys! @DominoSuo

BlueRain · F

@DominoSuo Very true!