I Want To Write My Random Thoughts And Feelings

@minarth008 Exactly. I agree with everything you wrote from your reply. It's incredibly sad because now a days, part of the reason why people only consider themselves and not others especially the elders is because of the millennial entitlement as well as after the economical recession, our surroundings became much more competitive and now it has grown to become "it's either me or I will have to throw him/her under the bus to get to where I am and I don't care who it is even if it's family." I strongly believe that Karma exists to those who believe in this sad, manipulative strategy and especially there is good and bad Karma. I miss the old times when my parents were growing up where it seemed easier even though technology wasn't developed as it is now. I miss the courtesy of people during their times. I wish that there were continuous stories of those who succeeded from the ground up and were the scrappers whereas unfortunately, now the trust fund babies have all of the financial support to create a successful, stable business or they're famous for no talent. In addition, like you said, there is an enormous division between the differences of beliefs and opinions and most cannot accept the other's just because they think or feel entitled to believe that they are right when really opinion is an opinion and it's not always a fact. Most of all, I see my generation of people around me will be malicious and manipulative just to get what they want from jealousy and entitlement when they should really be inspired and supportive of others around me. But sadly, it's not that way anymore.

@Cat05 You hit the nail right on the head. I think part of it stems from technology and how that has changed things. I think the other part stems from us believing that our parents were hard on us, and we weren't going to be that way to our kids. Sadly, I think because of that, our society has devolved to your description of every person for himself/herself. I don't feel that my parents were hard on me, and I don't think I was that hard on my kids, but then, they no longer talk to me, so I went wrong somewhere. 🤔

I think parenting is hard enough already for adults just because there is no right or wrong tactic to raise a child or children or there isn't a particular system for it. It's really to figure it out ourselves to what's best for the child and sometimes it stems from our culture, childhood, and how our parents raised us. Sometimes parents raise their child without even realizing they're doing the same as how their parents raised them and sometimes the child feels it's the wrong tactic to be raised so they rebel or act the opposite of their parents' desires. In addition to that, children, are very expensive! Haha. But back to how people are now a days... it's like you have to be easy on them and constantly always reward them with a golden star. At my last job, the girl next to me always needed have some sort of constant validation and rewards with a "golden star" from my former boss. She would get offended and upset when my boss would criticize her with a certain part of the project to improve. Oddly enough, my boss secretly told me this about her. Maybe because I don't need a golden star to be rewarded for every little effort and I can take criticism to improve? I'm not sure why, but I'm assuming there is a listening ear at the time than someone like the girl next to me that needs to be rewarded and given loads of constant attention.

I'm very sorry that they no longer talk to you. Maybe you can reach out to them first and if they don't respond back, then they must have some things to figure out what went wrong as well. Sometimes time and space is best within any relationship for it to be reconciled and fixed.

Yes, you are quite right, we all do things differently. I have to say I don't believe my parents were particularly hard on me, although my brother says otherwise, but he is 12 yrs older than me. I was content as a kid, didn't really want for anything, and my kids were the same way. They had a roof over their head, 3 meals a day, good clothes, and toys when they were young. I guess we all want more though from time to time. I understand what you are saying about the validation with your coworker. Maybe that stems from how they were brought up, but that type of behavior does make things tough on other people. I think that constantly being rewarded doesn't allow a person to grow, or get better at what they are doing. With the constant rewards, then they could be doing something mediocre or barely getting by, and not know it due to the constant rewards.