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MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@OogieBoogie I think you are over-exaggerating a bit. It's not just a simple hello... it's usually an in-depth conversation filled with interrogating type questions that catches me off-guard. I'm actually pretty friendly once I warm up. And, my point is it's all about reciprocating attitudes. People should respect my space and privacy. In this case, my consultation is she should focus on her own listening skills.
OogieBoogie · F
@MarkPaul you go out in public.
People are kind and polite to you which is a social expectation that not all get given and you complain about said simple niceties.
They arent "in depth at all.
Now you are exaggerating.
I could pick quite a number of your posts where this has happened.
How much personal experience do you have with todays teenagers?
How many do you know?
How many have you interacted with in the last year?
Me - lots
- about 60
- In the last year - 180 minimum. Perhaps 270.
And the one thing over 80% of them suffer with is little or no attention span. Some have ones of less than a minute.
Its a behavioral pandemic bought on by such things as tiktok.
They are also used to getting everything immediately:
Uber eats
Music
Games
Personalized attention.
They are also losing interpersonal skills of conversation, elaboration, comprehension and resilience.
None of this is really their fault, its the world they are growing up in.
I know.
I deal with them every working day.
Its frustrating and difficult and requires a MASSIVE ammount of patience and tolerance.
People are kind and polite to you which is a social expectation that not all get given and you complain about said simple niceties.
They arent "in depth at all.
Now you are exaggerating.
I could pick quite a number of your posts where this has happened.
How much personal experience do you have with todays teenagers?
How many do you know?
How many have you interacted with in the last year?
Me - lots
- about 60
- In the last year - 180 minimum. Perhaps 270.
And the one thing over 80% of them suffer with is little or no attention span. Some have ones of less than a minute.
Its a behavioral pandemic bought on by such things as tiktok.
They are also used to getting everything immediately:
Uber eats
Music
Games
Personalized attention.
They are also losing interpersonal skills of conversation, elaboration, comprehension and resilience.
None of this is really their fault, its the world they are growing up in.
I know.
I deal with them every working day.
Its frustrating and difficult and requires a MASSIVE ammount of patience and tolerance.
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@OogieBoogie Well, I'm a working man now so I don't hang out with teenagers. I'm not sure that is material though. I am an astute observer of humans and know all about interpersonal skills. I have experience guiding interns this year.
Everyone seems to want things immediately and cave into their impulses. It's not unique to teenagers. In case you haven't noticed, we live in a "just do it," "get it overnight," and "don't wait, do it now" society.
Personally, I find it a challenge dealing with all ages of people because they tend to lack self-discipline, have a lot invested in conformity, and tend to want to chat it up non-stop.
Everyone seems to want things immediately and cave into their impulses. It's not unique to teenagers. In case you haven't noticed, we live in a "just do it," "get it overnight," and "don't wait, do it now" society.
Personally, I find it a challenge dealing with all ages of people because they tend to lack self-discipline, have a lot invested in conformity, and tend to want to chat it up non-stop.
OogieBoogie · F
@MarkPaul i dont find people hard to talk to at all - one just needs to adapt ones communication a little and listen.
Everyone has a style, a sub culture and personal expressive needs, one just has to let them speak and then follow.
And if, by your comment about "not hanging out with teenagers coz you are a working man", insinuate that i dont won't and are some sort aged out wierdo...
...I work at a high school.
Have done for nearly two decades.
Have watched the social and behavioral change that is happening to kids.
This made me laugh tho:
Do you ?
That's cute .
Takes most people most of a life time.
If you really are so astute and know all about interpersonal skills, why do you have so little tolerance and so many questions about how others talk to you, eh?
Shouldn't you have all your answers already if you are so knowledgeable?
Everyone has a style, a sub culture and personal expressive needs, one just has to let them speak and then follow.
And if, by your comment about "not hanging out with teenagers coz you are a working man", insinuate that i dont won't and are some sort aged out wierdo...
...I work at a high school.
Have done for nearly two decades.
Have watched the social and behavioral change that is happening to kids.
This made me laugh tho:
. I am an astute observer of humans and know all about interpersonal skills. I have experience
Do you ?
That's cute .
Takes most people most of a life time.
If you really are so astute and know all about interpersonal skills, why do you have so little tolerance and so many questions about how others talk to you, eh?
Shouldn't you have all your answers already if you are so knowledgeable?
MarkPaul · 26-30, M
@OogieBoogie Well I have a trace of shyness I guess you can say. Some people claim it could be social anxiety, but that's not it. I mean, maybe I do but if so then that's also just a trace as it turns out to be. In any case... could it be possible you are spending so much time with school kids that you have lost sight that the adult world is transforming as well? It's not just kids.
It's not reasonable or realistic to expect that I will continuously be prepared to engage in conversation with everyone who infiltrates my space with literally no warning. I mean that's just not sustainable. So yeah, I occasionally speak out against those kinds of intrusions.
I don't have all the answers. I'm continually hunting for new information. It's an integral part of my profession as a data analyst. I'm a fan of lifelong learning.
It's not reasonable or realistic to expect that I will continuously be prepared to engage in conversation with everyone who infiltrates my space with literally no warning. I mean that's just not sustainable. So yeah, I occasionally speak out against those kinds of intrusions.
I don't have all the answers. I'm continually hunting for new information. It's an integral part of my profession as a data analyst. I'm a fan of lifelong learning.