Here’s my opinion, free and worth every penny.
You were knowingly disrespectful. You thought such a daring move would be hilarious. If what you say is true, there’s no way you didn’t know the effect it might have.
It’s not about what YOU think or believe that’s relevant.
When you are a guest in someone’s home, it means that you honor and respect and show gratitude because they chose to invite you. It’s THEIR home, not yours. If you can’t be respectful, don’t go to their house.
Pretty simple.
In this case, it’s even worse. It was your mother you were disrespectful to. Not that I think mothers get a gold pass, but what you describe was intentional and quite childish. Then she explained WHY it was disrespectful and you disrespect her even more, and you still are doing that, like a teenager muttering “It was just a joke,” after hurling a brick through someone’s living room window.
Practice saying, “I was wrong, I am sorry.” Then don’t do it again. And, a caution: Even if you don’t hold anything sacred, many people do. If you can’t even honor that with silence, then you’d better be careful about where you go and what you do. There are places where you could end up seriously hurt or dead. For a joke.
I went to a Lakota powwow once, and during a dance performance, an eagle feather fell off one of the costumes. Everything stopped, and four Native American chieftains (three of whom, I learned later, were decorated WWII veterans) silently retrieved the eagle feather, chanted, and carried it off for safekeeping. It was no joke to them.
