Let's say you have 4k in savings... [I Ramble]

And you're going to use it to move away to another country and stay with someone while you get your life together.

But a relative knows you have that amount and they want to borrow it to buy their own stuff/pay bills.

Are you obligated to give it to them? Or is it okay to say, "No, that's my savings to move with."

* This is a serious question btw... 😥

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Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 31-35, F

You are under no obligation to give your money away. I’ve experienced this several times. Others believing that I should be the fix to their problems. It’s not reasonable & I feel no guilt taking care of me. You use that money for what you want to they are not your responsibility.

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Even if it's a parent? And a parent who says, "I raised you so you should be okay with giving me money..."?

Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 31-35, F

@JupiterDreams my husband has dealt with this identical situation. ( expect our saved money was for a home) Parents are not owed our money for raising us. They make the choice to have us & then as children we are their responsibility. It’s not some down payment so the children give away what they earn later. My husband’s mother has used my husband for so many years there’s never an end to the requests or guilt trips. You have just one life. Live it to your own standards. Adventure is an important part to life. Don’t let anyone even family tell you they deserve your money or their need is greater than your desire for life. It’s untrue, unfair & inappropriate for them to try to convince you of that. Honestly it sounds like to me this trip/ move could be very healthy for you to also create some distance from that kind of environment. My husband still loves his mother of course. But some people really don’t add to our life & some even take away. My advice use your savings to go away. Start your next adventure. Who knows what you’ll do, who you might be etc You won’t ever regret living to the fullest. 🌻

JupiterDreams · 31-35

@Mrsbetweenfatandfit Thank you 🤗🌺

GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M

@JupiterDreams its a guilt trip