How often do you tell your adult children to..

I don’t think I did that, but my daughter (now 44) has twice made it a point to thank me for teaching her not to ‘catastrophize’, a word I didn’t remember ever hearing. I asked what it meant, exactly, and she said, you showed me how to be effective, not dramatic. You never screamed.

I took and take that as a compliment, although I didn’t think much of it when we were young.

I had a parent like this. Very frustrating. But I finally came to the conclusion that I wanted something they just weren’t capable of giving. And began to seek out those who did have that capability.

Never. I am not that close to my son. I would like to be...but that's not something HE wants...and I always respect his wishes.

We usually talk it through and I tell him if it's something you can't control it's best to accept it and move on

I don't have adult children yet .. do you feel they are being too dismissive of your feelings?