Starting to doubt my choice...

He was abusive, no doubt, but they're 99, maybe that's how marriage is for 99 year olds. Maybe they just abuse each other. Maybe I intervened and made it worse. Maybe I broke apart a couple that loved each other in a way 99 year olds do. They're from a different time. What if it wasn't my place?

Is it better to be hurt by someone or to hurt because you miss them?

I feel bad. Really really bad.

If I said nothing they would of hurt each other. He was very cruel to her. Her family wouldn't even visit her because of him.

But maybe that's what she wanted? But what does her dementia mind want and should she get it if her safety is at risk?