How to stop putting those that hurt me in front of those that care about me?

I understand it's a trauma response and I'm going to talk to my therapist, but just wondering if anyone else here can relate and worked through it...

It's not a matter of gratitude. I have gratitude. I think it has more to do with abuse and keeping myself safe. Not being able to fully trust that people won't abandon me or die.

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SlippingAway · 46-50, F

It's a hard cycle to break out of, I can relate a lot. I am just a work in progress. I have to stay aware that I am doing this, I have a tendency to make choices that will end up hurting me.

Achelois · F

I have abandonment wounds I’m working on, I find it hard to trust people, because of the abuse I went through.

It’s not easy 😔

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

Again, I think I would ask myself what relevancy do these people have in my life. Are they the ones I rely in when I am making decisions? Are they people I have to consider in my plans? Do they play any role at all in my life?

If the answer to these is no, then what they think is none of my business and I don't have to care.

urbancowboy · M

@FoxyQueen So very true

urbancowboy · M

It is easier said than done some times, for it has happened to me. I just shut the door on the people who are the most toxic in my life by not communicating with them turning my back in ways to keep me from getting sucked into the drama. The ones that care will always be there to catch you when you fall

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