How do you get through death anniversaries

My grandparents were alive for a significant part of my life. Before they passed I did my best to make myself available for them and let them know that I did love and cared about them.
Since I did that while they were alive I normally don’t remember the anniversary although I have contemplated on doing something for my Mother’s Mother , my maternal grandmother probably some type of memoriam in the newspaper because my Mom treated her pretty bad at the time of her passing and didn’t invite me to her funeral.

I don't tend to remember the dates and I think that's because none have so far happened on a really memorable date. I mean, if one had happened on Christmas Day then I would remember it. I don't think there's any real trick to getting through it though, you'll feel it and you'll move forward in one way or another. My first death experience was the worst one for me. Nothing since has compared to that one, but I was young at the time and couldn't get my head around it. I'm much more accepting now, having experienced a lot more death. I try to take the positives where I can and to stay focused on the positive memories.

i think our society is obsessed with avoiding dificult emotions and its not healthy. its ok to be sad sometimes, sometimes its exactly how we SHOULD be feeling. the sadness of loss is a beautiful pain because it means that someone was precious to us. so on a death anniversary do think of the great times , cherrish the memories but also, cry a little, its ok.

It’s not easy. On my mother’s birthday that year, on Fet Géde (Day of the Dead) and the first anniversary my sisters and I went to the gravesite. But we prefer to get together and share stories about her life. It’s been two years and I still find myself thinking of something I wish I could share with her. 🥺

I don't keep the dates of things like that in the front of my mind. I had an ex who would get really depressed every single year on the date his dad died, even years after the fact. He couldn't do anything when he knew the date was approaching. It just seems a weird thing to me to dwell so much on it.

I try to go somewhere that's both peaceful and pleasurable, in order to honour their lives and remember the good times and love that we shared, I like to think they are there with me enjoying it too.

I find doing something they loved and remembering the good times.it doesn't get any easier. Just got to find away to deal with the pain

I usually partake in something that reminds me of them. A food they liked. An episode of a tv show. If they liked animals I’m kinder than normal to that kind of animal. Games. Sometimes I look at their picture and remember them. But for the most part I just honestly avoid it. Since I can’t really “handle it”

I allow myself the brief amount of time thinking of them. Usually at maximum length they play in my mind for a day. If I allow it to continue longer then that things get worse for me so I have to just turn it off. So I usually don’t even try to make things last for a day anymore. It’s usually just a few hours.

I focus on the the great memories I had of that person and each year though I still miss them the same it gets easier.

I don’t think about it. And I don’t dwell with sadness on my loved ones who passed away. I remember them with good thoughts and feelings.

It is difficult when the light of a cherished person goes out. I try to think about the brightness of their light and the warmth it provided. 😌😌

I've led a really lucky life in regards to loss so far but maybe the call would help me. I'm not sure how I'll handle it...

I don't remember when anyone died. At all. They are gone, it is the way of being human. I can't do anything about that. I can recall moments we had at various times, and choose what to do with that memory in that moment. That's all

Little rituals. Gestures to the departed so you're at peace with it. And just... well, grief. YOu push through. It hurts.

It's different for everyone. I might put on a favorite song of theirs or simply think fondly of the person and the impact our lives had on each other.

The 1st 2 or 3 are the hardest. But after that I tend to find them ok(at least so far) .I actually tend to remember deathverseries better than some b’days and wedding anniversarys

I open presents, call friends and family, and eat a big fancy dinner! (mom passed on Christmas day)

I do things that the deceased would appreciate, like cooking a food they really liked.

The best I can. There’s no wrong or right way. Hugs 🫂

In all seriousness, I don't fixate on dates. I can't remember them well in general, so I never know. I suspect it would be different if it were a partner or child though.

Stay busy, be around true friends or pets that truly care, and be prepared to potentially break down and need to ask for help should that happen...

Including telling people in advance

You get depressed a week before and it lasts a few months. At least that's how I do it.

Little rituals.
Honour their memory.
Allow yourself to mourn and grieve.
And if you need someone to talk to, I'm here 🤗

Guess it depends if you liked them or not. The deceased won't care what you do, so you have to muddle through it on your own.

i try to think of the positive and good times

Sad for a week

I try not to fixate on it for too long

I know the system posting such awful is going down, as earned

I don't dwell on them. There's no point.

Drink a big bottle of jack daniels and chill in my back yard