What the heck does it mean when someone keeps saying things that contradict?

@HijabaDabbaDoo this makes so much sense, but I wonder why? I'm pretty chill, why hurt me?

@MarbleMarvel the reasons can be endless. I've found people who assert inconsistency and control above all else love to hate and hate to love. It doesn't matter who the supply is. Having a sense of self-importance is their drive. You ever talk to someone to work together towards a solution but instead find they're working towards being right? You're not part of the picture to begin with.
I sometimes look at people with traits that make me feel confused, uncomfortable or upset and go by the idea of the scorpion and the frog story, why do I expect the scorpion not to sting?

@HijabaDabbaDoo So true. And now that you said it, yes I do see how the goal is to be right, not find a solution or compromise or care how their actions or lack of affect others.

That helps me understand why it was always about him. If I talked about anything at all, it became about him. And if he couldn't turn it into defensiveness, he'd start whining about his own life and how it was worse for him...

It's actually painfully clicking now. It wasn't love for me, it was the love I provided. Oof.

Thank you for this insight. Seriously 🖤

@StarLily it's blowing my mind it a manipulation tactic. It makes me feel like nothing when they do it.

@MarbleMarvel Yep, that's how it makes me feel too.
I had to learn the same lesson many, many times until I finally realized that the biggest clue that I'm being manipulated, is feeling confused. Please be careful, listen and trust yourself... truth + honesty = clarity, not confusion.

@NeuroticByNature is it meant to be confusing? So I am stressed? I'm definitely confused.

@MarbleMarvel manipulative people are confusing.

@Ducky Is this a common thing people do?

I agree 🖤

@MarbleMarvel I’m not sure how common it is, but I’ve been married to someone like that for a while now.

@Iwillwait they will tell me I'm the greatest person they know, then the next minute accuse me of trying to hurt them. Which is it? 😂

@MarbleMarvel I have this at work. I am not sure what to do, but move on, take note and try to never engage again.

@geoam1 really? It happens that fast?

They'll switch from one moment to the next. I never know what I'm going to get.

@EmoKing glad you got away